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  1. Keyan, you need to play the organ. Period. Give it everything you've got. Neither the Gloria nor "Jesus Christ is risen today" sound right on the piano.
  2. i just started on mousehunt today. Personally i prefer the FW interface, but I guess it is whatever you started with.
  3. fish wrangler on facebook is addicting as hell, especially for a game that you can only play every 15 minutes or so.
  4. hey guys. today will be busy. need to get haircut, take online quiz, study for biochem quiz, tooth identification quiz and anatomy stuff. plus try to do some cleaning and/or laundry and take care of kids. r15, you are a total redneck and tops on my list of people who will one day get drunk and accidentally blow their head off or die in some way befitting a Darwin Award recipient. hey N00t. ed, get that girl! i loves me some asian persuasion!
  5. He's a bass! Ed, no news on the cat? Sorry to hear about that, but congrats on the dating! Dunno if you have ever dated a single mom, but I know from experience that it is something you often have to handle with kid gloves (no pun intended, seriously). Best of luck! hey guys! dental school is kicking my butt. Otherwise life is pretty good.
  6. word to the wise (from the dumb): don't go on ebay at 2 in the morning.
  7. I am in the process of moving. By "in the process", I mean "I've done nothing".
  8. Regina coeli laetare, alleluia! Quia quem meruisti portare, alleluia! Resurrexit sicut dixit, alleluia! Ora pro nobis Deum, alleluia. V. Gaude et laetare Virgo Maria, alleluia! R. Quia surrexit Dominus vere, Alleluia!
  9. Eternal rest grant unto her, Oh Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her. May her soul and the souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen + My condolences and prayers, Keyan.
  10. all this time you said you had a Tracker, I thought you meant an isuzu trooper. No wonder you're having so many problems. you bought a friggin Geo! not that isuzu is all that, but at least it isn't a Geo.
  11. KK, I have nothing against you or anyone else here on the board. I didn't think my statement needed further explanation since I pretty much stated what I wanted to say, which is that marriage is a very complex thing and really can't be summed up in a sentence or two. Sure, you can say that it's just two people who love each other living together to create a stable environment for offspring, but when it comes to actually doing that, there is nothing simple about it. I apologize if you took it personally, but I've heard comments from you and Keyan regarding marriage, and, as a married man, I find it somewhat comical since both of you speak from a theoretical standpoint, whereas I have actual experience. I also have experience regarding this EXACT same circumstance and feel pretty confident that I know what I'm talking about. Keyan, you've got to stop thinking about this as something terrible. You just have to. Your sister is carrying a child of God, she's not marked with a scarlet letter. Since the whole thing is still new and fresh for you and your family, I can understand your reaction. I just hope and pray that as it sinks in over time that you learn to focus on your sister's needs and the new neice or nephew that is going be around soon. If you've never been around a pregnant woman, you may be in for a shock.
  12. changes to something with less glee at her "misfortune" and with more support and love for your sister and her child on the way, whose uncle you are going to be.
  13. i love how the unmarried people here are trying to sum up marriage in a sentence or two. Keyan, it seems obvious that you're not going to change your position any time soon. But one other thing bothers me, and it is an underlying attitude in your posts that your sister is getting what she deserves because she's been this rotten person up til now. Try to stay focused on the big picture and not the particulars of the setting: your sister is going to be bringing a new creation of God into the world. It is cause for rejoicing. She's going to need support, and you're going to have to show her that you care.
  14. Keyan, stop and think for a second. You've gone on and on about how your sister is immature and all that. She's cohabitating and she went and got herself knocked up. Do you think that she is demonstrating the maturity level needed to enter into a marriage? Do you think her boyfriend is mature enough to handle it? I'm sure the answer to both is No. If that is the case, why do you think it is suddenly so necessary for two immature people to enter into a PERMANENT bond? Part of the reason the divorce rate is so high is (in addition to no fault divorce) the fact that people are simply not prepared for it or don't really know what it is about. Sounds like they are going to go through the proper marriage prep through the church. That is great. It still doesn't fully prepare you. One of the first questions asked at a wedding is "have you come here freely and without reservation to enter into the bond of matrimony" or something along those lines. if you're marrying because the woman got pregnant, how can you truly answer that question yes, unless your intent was to eventually get married before you knocked her up? Don't leave this all on the priest, Keyan. You need to take on some responsibility as a brother and talk to your sister. sounds like you don't get along well, but you need to show her some support and make sure she is doing this for the right reasons. Don't be such a black-and-white thinker. There's a lot at stake here and shades turn quite gray when you're dealing with a new life.
  15. So you think you can just marry anyone and if you choose really really hard, you'll be able to love this person despite everything? C'mon, Keyan. Only God is capable of that kind of love. Do you think her boyfriend is capable of loving in that manner? Do you think he is capable of looking at it as objectively as you are? "A child has a right to both of its parents." That's a nice sentiment and all that, but what if one parent dies? Or he's an abusive addict? Or just simply isn't mature enough to handle raising a child and would be more harm than good? Do you think it is healthy for a child to have two parents who fight all the time but are married simply because he knocked her up? Better to not marry at all. Does this mean he hits the road and has no involvement in the baby's life? Not unless necessary. A mistake has been made in living together, having sex, getting pregnant. However, getting married out of obligation is an affront to the sacrament of marriage. I would go so far as to call it sacrilegious. No one says it has to be mushy gushy lovey dovey stuff. When two people know it is real love, they know. I know from experience a real, true test of two peoples' love for each other is if they have a baby together. If they are able to demonstrate the maturity to care for the baby and each other, then I think they should get married. Not as a knee-jerk reaction to the fact that she is carrying a baby.
  16. if she and her boyfriend are not meant for each other, then it isn't right to force it. The divorce rate is way too high as it is, and it will be worse for the child to go through a divorce. Trust me, I know from experience. I got a girl pregnant, an ex of mine, and everyone kept saying i should marry her, especially since we had been thinking about it before. But it would have been totally wrong of me to do that since I knew that I didn't truly love her and I couldn't stand to live with her. My family pressured me over and over again, but I knew it wasn't the right thing to do. YOU need to set aside your anger and be a voice of reason and think about what is going to TRULY be best for this baby and your sister. She's going to be hormonal and not be able to think straight, and her boyfriend is probably not the sharpest knife in the drawer. This baby may be exactly what she needs to start thinking about something other than herself and turn her life around. Stop thinking like a man with a baseball bat in his hands and start thinking like someone holding a newborn baby.
  17. Keyan, there are worse things in the world that could happen. I realize, being Catholic and all, that being prego out of wedlock is a no-no, but what is done is done. I'm sure you will be a supportive brother and all that because she will need the support. However, I am not wild about the idea of those two getting married just because she got pregnant. Marriage should not be done to "save face". You know as well as I do that it is a sacrament. It is difficult enough as it is without adding the stress of what is basically a shotgun wedding. Make sure your sister knows what she is doing. I think it would be wise of her even to wait until the baby is born.
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