Natty Posted January 12, 2002 Share Posted January 12, 2002 In Australia the legal age for sex is 16, but if you're over 18 and have sex with someone less than 18, it's still considered rape coz 18 is considered an adult in Australia, regardless of whether the younger person consented or not. Think that's personally a stupid law, what's the point in being allowed to have sex at 16 if your bf or gf is older than 18? Actually there's more to a relationship than bonking But yeah... I think sometimes people can depend waaaaaaaay to much on a bf or gf. I mean my brother did everything for his ex gf, and I mean everthing, and she was obsessive, she didn't like him seeing his friends or whatever, she always wanted to spend every spare min with him, and it even got to the stage like if he had been at her place, say it took 20mins to get from her place to my place, she'd ring after 20mins to see if he got home, coz she basically thought he might go and see someone else, it's like she didn't trust him or anything. And then she'd ring back basically every half an hour or something to see if he had arrived home yet, and then they'd literally have an argument on the phone about where he had been or stuff. Then my friend, well sometimes I feel like she uses her bf, she'll ring him up just to ask him if he can pick her up and take her home, ummmm, she tells him to buy all this stuff for her, and the silly moron does. She spends literally everyday with him, and if it was me, I'd be sick of the guy by now (or if it was me and my bf spending literally everyday together I'd be sick of him hehehe) A friend did tell me that the only reason why she's going out with this guy is coz she's jealous of me and my bf (also her dad died a few years ago so she wants a 'male figure' in her life, strange she has 2 older brothers...) which I very much doubt. It depends on the person, some people go out with someone for the sake of having a bf or gf, some use people just to get the partner to buy stuff for him or her, while others seriously care about the other. I think as long as you seriously care about the other person, then age shouldn't matter. But when you are in your teenage years, a year differance can seem like 10years difference. The point is, would you go out with him if he's a day younger or a few months younger Frenchy? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guybrush122 Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 Originally posted by murta GB122 - do you know anything about relationships? At that kind of age, 1 year is very different to it would be for people over 20. Example: some losers at the schol I used to go to went out with 12 year olds when they were 16 because they couldn't get anyne their own age, I know this is different to 1 year but it illustrates a point. People are rapidly growing during their teenage years so 1 year in the life of a teenager kinda represents about 5-10 years growth in an adult, especially where the body and hormones and stuff are concerned. Also, caring for someone can get to a point where it just becomes sorta sad because they never stop hanging around you, people need their space. Some people might like this kind of thing (mainly vain people) but I think most don't i just want to let you know that that was completely unfair and prejudice of you...i dont hate you, but just think that through.......im 13......ive managed to carry out two, long, relationships and....well......im not gonna say what else.....im not attacking you on any level, i just think that its kind of dumb to assume that since im thirteen im incapable of knowing about relationships as much as, lets say, a 16 year old would know.......dont take this as an arguement starter.......i hope it wont be, im just speaking my mind....... .....secondly, i understand it makes a point, i made a bad analogy.....but age shouldnt stop somebody for having a good time with somebody else.....thats my feeling......and i know that people need there space and i know that constant hanging around wouldnt please, but its just because he is ignorant in how to act in a relationship or around frenchy.....it just shows that he wants to make a good impression and have her happy.......it means he cares..........if she were to talk to him straight he'd get it, but if he didn't, at least understand that he wasnt trying to annoy.....just care............... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Natty Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 Originally posted by Guybrush122 managed to carry out two, long, relationships and have managed to have oral sex Given or received Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guybrush122 Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 Originally posted by Natty Given or received recieved...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Natty Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 Giving is more fun Ooooooooooooookay... change of subject Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Feral Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 Hmm...I see Guybrush's point. Mine and my ex Carly's relationship lasted from November 1999 to February 2001. THus, I started the relationship at 12 years old. And that's the only relationship I've had, ever (except stupid primary school stuff). I think that's one of the reasons I scare off girls; I want good commitments, and not many 14 year old girls are ready for that, as I have unfortunately discovered over the past year. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
murta Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 Arggg, I was typing a really big message and IE crashed so I'll have to shorten this up a bit: GB122 - Sorry I didn't realise you were 13, so I wasn't making my judgement based on that, it was purely because of your last post. BTW oral sex at (or under 13) isn't really an achievement, I mean what's the point? Were you even sexually active then? I know people who have had sex when they were 9, purely for the sake of it and I think it's stupid, because at such a young age, you're taking away something that could mean alot more when you're older and better informed to make a judgement. I know oral sex isn't quite the same, but at 13 (or under), what is the point? Did it express feelings for your girlfriend? Did you get bragging rights? Or had you just had sex-ed and wanted to try it out or something? I don't want to patronise you (and this isn't directed at you, more anyone and everyone), but relationships at that kind of age are meaningless (but kinda helpful for learning I suppose) too many teenagers (well from the age of about 10 to 18) think they know alot more about relationships and love than they actually do, believe me, when you get older you'll realise, but teenagers are so blind. I know I used to think I was in love when I was younger but I know now that it wasn't love. I think just about every relationship I've had so far has been meaningless (but good for learning I suppose - infant school progressed from holding from holding hands to kissing, then in junior school it was more going places with a girlfriend and buying her stuff, then at the start of secondary school it was more about talking and real kissing and now it's sort of all of those things rolled into one (plus things are more focussed on love nowadays, which is something that gets thrown around and I still don't believe that I am or have been in love, maybe I'm just pessimistic. Guess I'll know when I'm older) Man this turned out longer than I expected Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
murta Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 Originally posted by NiKo erm..... if i'm 16 and i'm going out with a 14 year old girl, does that make me a looser? 16-14 isn't too bad, because girl's generally 'start' earlier than boys so by that time both of them will pretty much have their heads screwed on, but going out with a 12 year old's kinda taking advantage because they're confused and easily persuadable, plus they'd go out with an older boy just because he's older, I'll try to find pictures of the 3 boys who went out with the 12 year olds (it was 2 girls but they all went out with them) so you can judge for yourself (the pictures will be from when they're younger): Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NiKo Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 ......anyone remembers those geeks from the busstation i told you about last year? they look just like them! pimple popping, milk snorting,pen wearing,manga drooling loosers. errrrmm...murta, w...why do you have pictures of them...? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fender Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 yearbook? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guybrush122 Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 Originally posted by murta Arggg, I was typing a really big message and IE crashed so I'll have to shorten this up a bit: GB122 - Sorry I didn't realise you were 13, so I wasn't making my judgement based on that, it was purely because of your last post. BTW oral sex at (or under 13) isn't really an achievement, I mean what's the point? Were you even sexually active then? I know people who have had sex when they were 9, purely for the sake of it and I think it's stupid, because at such a young age, you're taking away something that could mean alot more when you're older and better informed to make a judgement. I know oral sex isn't quite the same, but at 13 (or under), what is the point? Did it express feelings for your girlfriend? Did you get bragging rights? Or had you just had sex-ed and wanted to try it out or something? I don't want to patronise you (and this isn't directed at you, more anyone and everyone), but relationships at that kind of age are meaningless (but kinda helpful for learning I suppose) too many teenagers (well from the age of about 10 to 18) think they know alot more about relationships and love than they actually do, believe me, when you get older you'll realise, but teenagers are so blind. I know I used to think I was in love when I was younger but I know now that it wasn't love. I think just about every relationship I've had so far has been meaningless (but good for learning I suppose - infant school progressed from holding from holding hands to kissing, then in junior school it was more going places with a girlfriend and buying her stuff, then at the start of secondary school it was more about talking and real kissing and now it's sort of all of those things rolled into one (plus things are more focussed on love nowadays, which is something that gets thrown around and I still don't believe that I am or have been in love, maybe I'm just pessimistic. Guess I'll know when I'm older) Man this turned out longer than I expected there was a point to it.......and judging by the hair on my **** and my ass and the hour clean ups after i clean the pipes........i think im sexually active..........(oops, i was a bit too graphic...oh well, ) well, I was sexually active then (i was 13 still) and the point was.........well, there was no real emotional point in it........it happened abruptly, I flirted, she bought it, we draged me into the bathroom, and BAM.....i didnt know what hit me.....but it helped me in a way, it made me less nervous around girls becaues now i'm not looking to score and im not looking for a gf, but im looking for a nice person whom I can talk to.....and i want to be the guy who listens for a change........not like those creeps who just want to score....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guybrush122 Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 oops, i forgot to add something........ sex when your in love is something i dont believe in.......because why do you go out? because there is a chance you love your partner.............thats the whole point........so you can have sex all you want.......for physical or emotional means..............in my opinion anyway Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Feral Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 :eek: I feel way out of my league now...can we stop talking about this? You really are making me feel inadequate . Not that I'm ready for sex yet anyway, not in my heart at least. Hell, I haven't had a girlfriend in almsot a year, and people younger than me and going off and getting oral sex and being allowed to suck people's tits and other crazy **** like that . You lucky, lucky *******s. And I truly mean that. What the hell am I doing wrong? This bites a **** :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelenW Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 NO NO NO!!!! I'm shocked, and believe me I work in a psychiatric hospital and I've seen a lot!!! 13!!! What the hell is going on getting blow jobs at 13. Beleive me feral, you are not missing out, cos in 5 years time or whatever, the girls who are doing that now, no-one will want to touch cos they are going to be right slags. These sound like the sort of people who get pregnant at 12 or 13 or whatever. And I'm sure you wouldn't want to be involved with someone like that. Ask Murta, Breif, Grannan, (I'm assuming your older cos you was on about work) or any of the older ones here and I'm sure they would not want to get involved with someone who was giving blow jobs at 13 in toilets!!! There is a difference between sex with people you love and don't love. If you love them it is so much more special, and it is worth waiting for the right person to come along instead of being under pressure cos your mates say they have had sex before you, and you don't want to be the last one to lose your virginity. Most people lie anyway and say they have when they haven't. I've spoke to people my age who are disgusted at people who are sexually active at a really young age, but I remember when we were all younger people would say they had done this or done that. See the discepancy!!! It's all lies, and those who were telling the truth, are looked down on!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NiKo Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 feral... i never had any sexual action either.... i feel so......so....Sexless Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Feral Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 I'm not saying I think I'm missing out, and would never succumb to sexual desires at my age. But it'd be nice to have the offer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fender Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 I'm being left out of all this sex! It's not fair! *balls his eyes out* I....I need a hug. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeadEyeDave Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 [/b]theyre like "oooh now we got boobs so we need a BIG man" or something....[/b] Now that's a cool qouto, lol NiKo! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frenchyd Posted January 13, 2002 Author Share Posted January 13, 2002 Woo, that's a lot of reading to do. I'm 15 years old, and SO many kids have started having sex and stuff, and personally, i DON'T even come close to wanting it.. Yet. The main reason is (sorry guys) is that they're all just super horny and need to get laid. Imagining THAT kind of sex, well kinda turns me on. When I have sex, I want it to be like, him wanting to please ME as much as himself, and teenage boys AND girls, just are about themselves. I know I am. One of my good friends has started dating a 23 year old. I can't believe it. What the HELL is she doing? This guy can't get any 23 year olds? You can't tell me he finds a 16 year old an interesting person to talk to. That's crap. Tell me Brief/Natty, would YOU date a 16 year old? Anyways, GB122, I just think you probably shoulda waited, 'till you found someone special. But it's not really my buisness Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Feral Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 Originally posted by fender I....I need a hug. Damn you, Fender, that's my line! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frenchyd Posted January 13, 2002 Author Share Posted January 13, 2002 *gives feral AND fender a BIG hug * Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NiKo Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 i need a hug to.....a really tight one.....prefered without clothes.....maybe lying down while hugging...... *spreads open arms* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Feral Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 *hugs NiKo* It's pretty dark in here...dude, are you naked??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Natty Posted January 13, 2002 Share Posted January 13, 2002 I need a hug is Donkey's line, how dare you use it? Anyways *hugggs Feral, NiKo, Guybrush and Fender, and anyone else who wants a hug* Well Frenchy, I dunno, I'm 19, and I'd probably date a 16yo if I thought I'd have a good time with him and so on. I remember when I liked my gay friend hehehe He's 2years younger than me, so yeah, we got on really well and were great friends (we still are) but we have the same sense of humor and we get on really, really well. Anyways, there was something about him I really liked and I wanted to go out with him, and no matter how many hints I dropped the stupid twit wouldn't take the bait. As it was I later found out he's gay but there was a time he did like me but with all those homosexual thoughts running around in his head he was way confused. My friend happens to like a 15yo, and she kinda wants to ask him out- but she's worried she'll get called a pedophile or a cradle snatcher or something. She doesn't look 19 either, she really does look about 15 or 16, so if this guy likes her as well he probably thinks she's younger than what she is. I agree Frenchy, I remember by the time I was in year8 at school some people had already started having sex (and smoking and doing drugs) and I didn't maybe that's why I was never in the 'cool' crowd at school- but personally I was happy living my life the way I wanted and didn't have sex just because everyone else was. I had sex when I felt I was ready and when I wanted to- not because someone else was ready. Frenchy- personally you do what will make you happy, if this guy is nice, sweet, fun (or whatever qualities you want in a guy) then go for it- to me age doesn't matter (other than if it was a 10yo- you're probably better off waiting till he grows up a bit), as long as he's a great guy I think you should go for it. But, if he's a jerk (and judging from what I assume was an email he sent you) he seems like a wanker and isn't worth it. Just remember to do what makes you happy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frenchyd Posted January 14, 2002 Author Share Posted January 14, 2002 Originally posted by Feral *hugs NiKo* It's pretty dark in here...dude, are you naked??? lmfaooooooooooooooooooo Holy crap feral, I needed that laugh. Thanks dude. WHOA! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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