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I just found out that my cousin died in a car crash on the way to the school he teaches at today...

You never think it'll happen to someone you know, do you? And I don't know why, but I feel guilty as ****. Perhaps it was because I was playing GTA Vice City at the time...

Ha...odd, that. GTA3 was his favourite game, and then he dies in a car crash.

Shocking.

It's already in the news, located here.

I don't know what to do...I've never had to cope with this before. I feel like ****...Eck.

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Sorry man, it's always hard to deal with an enexpected death, I can only imagine. Were you two close? Don't worry, you'll always have your forumers behind you to comfort you, and your family. Sorry again, and don't feel guilty, it's just a coincidense, don't worry about it, just be there for your family, that's all you can do.

 

The Unprofessionals by U.A. Fanthorpe

 

When the worst thing happens,

That uproots the future,

That you must live for every hour of your future,

 

They come,

Unorganized, inarticulate, unprofessional;

 

They come sheepishly, sit with you, holding hands,

From tea to tea, from Anadin to Valium,

Sleeping on put-you-ups, answering the phone,

Coming in shifts, spontaneously,

 

Talking sometimes,

About wallflowers, and fishing, and why

Dealing with Kleenex and kettles,

Doing the washing up and the shopping,

 

Like civilians in a shelter, under bombardement,

Holding hands and sitting it out

Through the immortality of all the seconds,

Until the blunting of time.

 

 

Hope this helps. :)

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Well, I don't feel guilty anymore...that passed not long after I made the post.

Dinner helped. My parents were talking about normal things, which showed me it's OK to pretend it didn't happen, or to forget about it.

Thanks for your help, Neil and Helly...it's appreciated.

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It's nice that you're family wasn't effected too much by this, but don't try and pretend that nothing happened, otherwise it'll just buid up inside of you and make you angry and hostile towards the people you love for no reason. You have to realise what happened and deal with it, or else you'll never get over it. Don't block him out, feel for him, emote, cry, whatever, do something, acting normal is not normal when someone dies, remember that.

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Oh, they're affected, I can tell. I think they were putting on a front for me, really, because I've never had to cope with a death before.

And I'm not blocking it out totally...I can't stop thinking aobut it, to be honest. I'm just trying to do things that don't involve thinking too much.

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Hey, you know what, they say life is a just a leash :) Actually they say something else but I can't remember. Besides the alliteration in that sentence is nice. Don't worry Feral, I know what it's like and it's weird, but it goes away :)

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My friend's big brother was killed in a crash last year. I didn't know him very well, but I was really affected, and my friend was in agony. So I can't really imagine what it is like. :( I'm really sorry and all my sympathy is with you. Remember again that we are here for you.

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I know how you feel feral...well, kinda...

I've lost many relatives in my life...but i've never been too close to them. which is just as unfortunate i guess.

 

the real deaths i fear are those of who are close to me...my mom is the only one i can think of...

guess i dont have much of a family

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My deepest symphaties. You know, It's probably not the right time making stupid comments in a serious thread like this, but I can't help myself. The funny thing is, I was playing Vice City at the exact same time. Again, I'm really sorry ! I know how it feels.

 

Al, I think it IS the worst thing that could happen, at least the worst thing I can think of.

 

And Neil, are you a mod now? Wow, times are changing. Congrats! :D

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I really do feel bad for you. Family are the best of friends sometimes. I don't know if I should feel fortunate or not that for some reason, I've built up a large tolerance for death, maybe because it's surrounded me, or I watch too much TV etc. Either way I think now it might be good, considering there is no reason to dwell on things that are gone, as long as you are happy that they once were there. Sort of a variation or someting my mom told me.

Sorry dude.

Hope you feel better soon.

 

PS - Sango's theme playing in the background is an extremely fitting song considering Sango lost her father and brother all in the same day.

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