Frenchyd Posted August 31, 2003 Share Posted August 31, 2003 there's a guy that i like SO much. he makes me giddy, talking to him. I've had a few conversations with him, but now my friend is in love with him too, even though she knows how much i like him. now she's making plans on how to ask him out and stuff, like it's no big deal, and it hurts a lot. how can i tell her to screw off without sounding mean? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kjølen Posted August 31, 2003 Share Posted August 31, 2003 Errrm, tell her to let you have the first try, sinse you liked him first? I dunno, I'm bad with this stuff. Best thing to do is to ask him first. Just a casual going out. You just gotta have a go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frenchyd Posted August 31, 2003 Author Share Posted August 31, 2003 im a libra. we don't make the first moves. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alia Posted August 31, 2003 Share Posted August 31, 2003 Then your friend will, I guess. Does he seem to to have an inclination towards either of you? 'Cause if he likes your friend better, it's sort of a hopeless business. Wish I could help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kjølen Posted August 31, 2003 Share Posted August 31, 2003 Originally posted by Frenchyd im a libra. we don't make the first moves. Ditto. =/ But my sister is a Libra too, she's outgoing, more towards later i guess. Could be cause she's a dog, and I'm a dragon... and dragons are suppose avoid dogs... so true in my family. XD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frenchyd Posted August 31, 2003 Author Share Posted August 31, 2003 well i dunno, he works at HMV (the cd store) and we chat a lot, but i dont know! i guess i'll go there and chat him up more sometimes. i dont know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ernil Posted August 31, 2003 Share Posted August 31, 2003 Try sex. That'll get him. Wait.... In all seriousness, start working him. Talk to him, then start hanging out with him, then go somewhere with him....and just....take him. Before your friend. I, being somewhat male, should know a bit about this situation. But I dont. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RicardoLuigi... Posted September 1, 2003 Share Posted September 1, 2003 don't ask me. i'm terrible with this kinda stuff. ...maybe tell your friend that she should just forget about him because he's supposed to be a fagget or something, she'll drop him like an anchor, and then you can go for him? but that'd look stupid. well, maybe do that and then when your friend asks about it say that you like faggets Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Groovy Posted September 1, 2003 Share Posted September 1, 2003 There have been girls I liked in the past, that I did not make a move on, and freinds of mine got to them. I don't know what hurts more. Then when they break up, it's even worse, because they turn to you for support, which sacks any chance of a relationship. Sorry your going through it Frenchy... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joshi Posted September 1, 2003 Share Posted September 1, 2003 Okay, here's what you do. You have to get some water baloons, fill them with porridge adn then chuck them at each other (your friend and you) whoever is the most covered in porridge has to back down. No, in all seriousness, if you can't make the first move, make him make the first move. Drop all of the biggest hints you ever could because he's a guy, we're too stupid to go for the smaller hints. And this is how you do it (feel free to change it accordingly) First, tell him you're in the market for a new guy, but you're last guy hurt you so bad that you don't really think you can trust guys again. Now depending on how much you like your friend, you may want to add that you last boyfriend ran off with your friend, but if you feel too bad doing that, then forget it. Immediatly after, tell him that he's really nice and is great for listening to you and your problems. Joke around a bit with him, be all playful like (and with that giddyness it shouldn't be a problem). Laugh at his jokes and quips, even if they're not funny, we as guys never really care whether you like the jokes or not. Now, whatever you do, don't act like you're interested in sports or cars or whatever he's into just to impress him. Unless of course you are into all that stuff, in which case, go right ahead, but you don't want him liking you for all the wrong reason. And don't tak to him about stuff that he wouldn't like, he'll get bored really easily. What you want to do is go right down to it and talk to him about stuff that he wouldn't normally talk about with other people, especially other guys. Talk to him about stuff that he would find embarrasing to talk about with anyone else and try and get it out of him and then be really understanding about it. If you do that, he'll find himself really comfortable talking to you and will want to hang out with you more. Now of course, you also have to keep a balance, he may not like it if you talk too much, so keep his side of the conversation as concentrated as yours. And keep smiling. Soon enough, he'll ask you out. At which point you tell him that you're already going out with me and turn him out cold. Or not, whatever. Good luck!. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ray Jones Posted September 2, 2003 Share Posted September 2, 2003 wow neil.. that is tactics .. but true somehow.. but the same counts for girls.. keep an eye that YOU like the talk with him too.. think of yourself.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alia Posted September 2, 2003 Share Posted September 2, 2003 *writes down everything Neil said* What? Could come in handy...soon... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guybrush122 Posted September 2, 2003 Share Posted September 2, 2003 Good show, Neil, good show. I was going to give my little piece of advice, but after that? Pssh, mine's worthless. Frenchy....best of luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kjølen Posted September 2, 2003 Share Posted September 2, 2003 What Neil said is good strategy, if you take out all of the lies in the beginning, that could end up going down. However I've always been a strong believer in not lying, cause I'm Catholic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joshi Posted September 2, 2003 Share Posted September 2, 2003 That may be true, but you see frenchy, you're cute enough to be able to pull it off, and ye tell him later that it wa just a lie to get him whiulst still making it cute. Girls have a way of doing that sucessfully whilst guys get dumped on the spot for that kind of thing. Equal sexes my arse. And everyone else, i really think Frenchy would be grateful for all your advice too, you know, for more of a choice of what to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frenchyd Posted September 3, 2003 Author Share Posted September 3, 2003 ok, update. i normally go in and he comes over and chats with me for a bit. but he didn't today. so i finally found the CD i wanted and went over to chat him up, but as soon as i got to the counter, he sorta looked away and the other guy came to help me. i said hi and he sorta mumbled at me. this doesn't look good =/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joshi Posted September 3, 2003 Share Posted September 3, 2003 Oh frig, somethings happened. For some reason he thinks badly of you. The best thing to do would be to go over to him and actually ask him whats up and why he gave you the cold shoulder, it's the only way you can sort things out. For all you know, it could have been you 'friend' bad mouthing you to him. Go up to him straight and ask him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Groovy Posted September 4, 2003 Share Posted September 4, 2003 Originally posted by Frenchyd ok, update. i normally go in and he comes over and chats with me for a bit. but he didn't today. so i finally found the CD i wanted and went over to chat him up, but as soon as i got to the counter, he sorta looked away and the other guy came to help me. i said hi and he sorta mumbled at me. this doesn't look good =/ Oh hell Frenchy, there's other guys in the world. Hell if I was not so old, and far away..... bah forget it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frenchyd Posted September 5, 2003 Author Share Posted September 5, 2003 Ok, ok, i'm gonna forget about him. I mean, I really don't think it was my friend bad mouthing me, because she's never done anything like that before, so I can't see it now. But yes, I'm gonna forget about him. Or try to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
murta Posted September 5, 2003 Share Posted September 5, 2003 you've always got Daryl Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kjølen Posted September 6, 2003 Share Posted September 6, 2003 WHat about that cute guy you see at the... um... place you often goto? Isnt he good? XD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NiKo Posted September 6, 2003 Share Posted September 6, 2003 I've got a similar kinda problem, i just saw one of my friends together with my X last night... isnt there some unrwitten rule between friends against dating your friends X without consulting them first? i know i would never do anything like that... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Groovy Posted September 6, 2003 Share Posted September 6, 2003 Originally posted by NiKo isnt there some unrwitten rule between friends against dating your friends X without consulting them first? There is an unwritten rule. I would not do that either. I don't even believe in dating on the rebound. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NiKo Posted September 6, 2003 Share Posted September 6, 2003 and its not the first time he's hitting on my X's... I'm really losing all respect for that guy... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ernil Posted September 6, 2003 Share Posted September 6, 2003 NiKo, try a small murder like you did in the other thread. And frenchy, ya haven't posted in a while. How fares your quest for the man? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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