Pada-Wan Posted August 22, 2002 Share Posted August 22, 2002 Alright, we have known each other since 8th grade(only 4 yrs) but he is my best friend. Usually he is always quiet when some other people are around, but when we play games together, we all get rowdy and have a good time. Plus his house is to big and its kewl =P Anyways, last week I got a GC and when we got together with 4 of my other friends he was REALLY quiet and hardly said a word to me. The same thing happened when i got a cable modem(he has 56k but i hope he upgrades soon) But last week was his b-day and i got him a $17 shirt. Yeah yeah, i know it isnt much, but its better then nothing. Plus my other friends havent given him anything. he really doesnt care when its his b-day. so whether i got him a shirt or a car he would just say "meh". So the problem i have is i wanna know why he is so quiet all of the sudden. is he bitter or something? im pretty nice to him and he still seems like his mad about the new things i got. i was thinking of returning my gc so he wouldnt get mad at me and give me the silent treatment anymore. He is my best friend. I don't want a system to ruin our friendship. and no, i won't break up my friendship with him. Any thoughts? Throw me a freakin' bone here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyrion Posted August 22, 2002 Share Posted August 22, 2002 Originally posted by Pada-Wan Alright, we have known each other since 8th grade(only 4 yrs) but he is my best friend. Usually he is always quiet when some other people are around, but when we play games together, we all get rowdy and have a good time. Plus his house is to big and its kewl =P Anyways, last week I got a GC and when we got together with 4 of my other friends he was REALLY quiet and hardly said a word to me. The same thing happened when i got a cable modem(he has 56k but i hope he upgrades soon) But last week was his b-day and i got him a $17 shirt. Yeah yeah, i know it isnt much, but its better then nothing. Plus my other friends havent given him anything. he really doesnt care when its his b-day. so whether i got him a shirt or a car he would just say "meh". So the problem i have is i wanna know why he is so quiet all of the sudden. is he bitter or something? im pretty nice to him and he still seems like his mad about the new things i got. i was thinking of returning my gc so he wouldnt get mad at me and give me the silent treatment anymore. He is my best friend. I don't want a system to ruin our friendship. and no, i won't break up my friendship with him. Any thoughts? Throw me a freakin' bone here Just keep the stuff. Ask him what the problem is,and if it's because you're getting better stuff than him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C'jais Posted August 22, 2002 Share Posted August 22, 2002 Just curious: what's a GC? I'd talk to him, like Tyrion said. Some people are just like that - quiet in front of strangers, but very vocal when with friends. Like me - Still figuring out a solution to this problem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyrion Posted August 22, 2002 Share Posted August 22, 2002 Originally posted by cjais Just curious: what's a GC? I'd talk to him, like Tyrion said. Some people are just like that - quiet in front of strangers, but very vocal when with friends. Like me - Still figuring out a solution to this problem. I'm Guessing GC is Game Cube. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pada-Wan Posted August 22, 2002 Author Share Posted August 22, 2002 yea it is. and he isnt the type of guy to talk to. he will just deny that there is any problem Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
obi Posted August 22, 2002 Share Posted August 22, 2002 Originally posted by Pada-Wan yea it is. and he isnt the type of guy to talk to. he will just deny that there is any problem I am the same way your friend is, except on the forums. anyways, nothing is wrong with me, so nothing is probably wrong with him. He probably isn't a "people person." Thats probably it. But that doesnt mean he hates you, or that he hates anyone else, or hates your stuff. Just be the same way with him you always have, and it'll be fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitedragon Posted August 22, 2002 Share Posted August 22, 2002 if he cant good time around your other friends and bacomes bitter when you just get a new game system then is he really that good of a friend Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pada-Wan Posted August 22, 2002 Author Share Posted August 22, 2002 good point white dragon thanks for the advice everyone Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Agen Posted August 22, 2002 Share Posted August 22, 2002 thing to dowith these people is, is invite them up quite a bit and give him a bad impression of the gamecube and stuff. There's also other ways of getting thme to not shut up, like you isolate yourself from everyone else, once he [retty muc hthinks you'll do it too, then go back to everyone you alwyas hang with adn he'll join and prob talk more and include in convs I would quote some cal;ssic spoonish advice given to bill but search is off and i'm shattered. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitedragon Posted August 22, 2002 Share Posted August 22, 2002 Originally posted by Pada-Wan good point white dragon i dont even talk to people like that. if they want to pout in the corner and wait for sympathy they are going to wait a long time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
obi Posted August 22, 2002 Share Posted August 22, 2002 well, It's not really my fault that I am like that in the real world. People are very mean, that's all I will say for now.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Agen Posted August 22, 2002 Share Posted August 22, 2002 And if your palying football and argueing with some **** and they have one kidney then jsut shout "and you've got one kidney" and wait for the laughter EDIT: I aint got a problem with anyone, i respect people for who they are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Divine Spirit Posted August 23, 2002 Share Posted August 23, 2002 its probly a mixture of two thigns, one of them is jealousy and the the other is jsut shyness u see, he might be hjealous of the thigns u have so he could be annoyed as for the shyness, im just like taht in real life. i dont talk muc h to people who i arent great firneds with but i can talk a lot to people i am good friend with....i dunnno why this is.. it couldbe be cause im shy or i want to nknwo wheterhto trust this new person first....perhaps this guy doesnt trust the other firnedbu t nhe trusts u. im tied, my neck hurts andi ned some sleep Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Camus Posted August 23, 2002 Share Posted August 23, 2002 ... for the most part... Most of my friends are anti social... One of my best friends is just like your friend... doesnt talk hardly at all unless we are on a one on one conersation... hes really passive... He can go a hole day... with out saying any words other than hey... yeah... uhuh... yes... no... and cool (sometimes)... its like a 6 word index... There is nothing wrong with that... Hes just doesnt want to talk... True... I will force him to talk... I will tell one friend to hold there comment and make him tell me his comment... Just give it time... :S He might talk around other people he might not... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Surfnshannon Posted August 23, 2002 Share Posted August 23, 2002 hum...was this the first time he ever played with the GC? Did he know those other people pretty well? If he doesn't know your friends to well...he was probably just shy. I'd just invite him over again to play one on one and see if he acts the same way. If he does, then you can ask him whats wrong without all the intimidation of the other people being around. If he acts normal and has fun...then you know it was the other peeps who were bothering him or maybe he was just having a bad day. See how he acts alone...he may have just been shy with all the other people around! He'll get over it. Just try and invite him over when you got others around so he'll feel included and maybe he will get to know your other friends better! Then he won't act so shy. If he continues to ignore you and act jealous around you getting stuff...just realise that maybe your friendship is growing apart and you need to give him some space. I got bummed to when friends got better stuff than me and I couldn't afford any of that. Just make him feel included. It will be just fine! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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