Dark Warrior Posted February 5, 2003 Share Posted February 5, 2003 Over the past few weeks I have become really depressed over peronsal problems involving friends, family, and school. I am having an extremely tough time dealing with it and I am falling lower and lower, like I am in a hole that I can't get out of. All my friends have turned to drugs, my family is on my case because of schoolwork and are blaming me and taking out their problems on me. And they always say to me that I am lucky to have such kind and loving parents. If they are kinmd and loving I do not want to see angry. It seems they favour my brother over me, and my brother uses this to his advantage by getting in trouble and blaming stuff on me. It doesn't sound like alot but it adds up. I just don't care about anything anymore. I know some of you swampies must go through with this and I am wondering if you have any advice for me to deal with stress. P.S. I have already seeked a counsellor and have tried talking to my parents. It didn't accomplish anything. Sorry if this thread seems pointless, I had to get this off my chest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katarn07 Posted February 5, 2003 Share Posted February 5, 2003 I go any where but my room and basement (where I have spent hours posing hundreds of SW action figures) and throw stuff around. That works for me when I am mad... But, my friends don't do drugs, so I can turn to them. My little sister gets away with everything after she blames it on me, and my dad gets mad alot, but not directly at anyone, but still pretty bad. My advice probably doesn't help, but that's what I do... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
obi Posted February 5, 2003 Share Posted February 5, 2003 We all go through tough times. But think about this- No matter how bad we have it, someone else in the world has it even worse. There are two main ways I deal with stress. A) I get one of my swords, and go to work on the bamboo in the back yard. Sounds wierd I know, but it has caused me to become a great swordsman imo. B)Get a shovel and dig holes in the back yard and cover them up, then start again. Sounds crazy, but it works. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pisces Posted February 5, 2003 Share Posted February 5, 2003 Nah. It's good to vent. I know exactly how you feel (except for the brother thing) but honestly, I tend to bottle it up. Sure, it's not healthy, but I vent in private. If I were to let some go in public I'd smash someone. If I were to give advice...errrrr...I'm not the best to ask but, just don't keep it up. Get it off your chest regularly. It's all I got. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katarn07 Posted February 5, 2003 Share Posted February 5, 2003 No, dont bottle it up. That is really bad. Once you get home or a private area, do what Obi and I suggested. Taking a big stick to a tree is good. I get satisfaction when it shatters (thick sticks too...) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Sitherino Posted February 5, 2003 Share Posted February 5, 2003 I play video games (you know the kind, hack and slash, FPS'). and i talk to my gf. she helps me with my stress alot. I'm glad i have her:) . also i come here. you guys make me laugh so much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C'jais Posted February 5, 2003 Share Posted February 5, 2003 I just post in the Senate. What?! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ckcsaber Posted February 5, 2003 Share Posted February 5, 2003 I do cartwheels. Whenever I'm realy angry/streesed, I go outside, walk down the sidewalk, and do cartwheels once in a while. The absurdity of it may seem amusing, but it really takes my mind off all the crap going thru my head. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matt-Liell Posted February 5, 2003 Share Posted February 5, 2003 Don't bottle up, don't do drugs and don't do anything drastic!!!!!! I was fighting with my mom today. I'm a gifted student at school and am really good. I got this gifted progress report that basically said I was an unorganized slob that lived it a filth pile. I was yelling and my mom was yelling at me. I felt better after telling one of my friends and just doing other stuff away from home and taking my time coming back home. I always got blamed for stuff my older brother did and to deal with that I simply talked to my parents. In your case I say just keep talking to your parents. I suggest you say you don't want to loose their love if you feel that way about them. But I'm no pro so don't take my advice. I suggest you keep trying different councelors and maybe a psycologist if its that bad. My only fear is that you take my advice and it ruins your life so ignore my suggestions and say what you feel. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dark Warrior Posted February 5, 2003 Author Share Posted February 5, 2003 Originally posted by C'jais I just post in the Senate. What?! Heh, sorry Cjais, should of thought of that. Thanks for the advice guys and you are right Obi, alot of people have it worse. It is really sad seeing my friends turn to drugs seeing I knew some of them for over 8 years of my life. They are trying to get me into it as they say that is the only way to deal with emotional pain. I have gone through stress beofre and I have thrown things around in utmost satisfaction. But this time, its different. It is a kind of depression (like I said before) that I can't climb out of. Just because I don't do well in school, does that make me stupid? According to alot of peope I know, it does. Noone understands. Insane Sith,I wish I had a girlfriend, but sadly I don't. Anyways, thankyou for the support guys, you are great. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matt-Liell Posted February 5, 2003 Share Posted February 5, 2003 Originally posted by Dark Warrior Just because I don't do well in school, does that make me stupid? According to alot of peope I know, it does. Noone understands. I know what you mean. Some people I know aren't great at school and they are really nice and can do some great stuff. My own sis dropped out of high school and she is one of the smartest people I know and she is dooing alright. But I don't suggest dropping out thats not my point. Just do your best, that is all you can do. Work hard and prove them wrong, you never know what could happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
obi Posted February 5, 2003 Share Posted February 5, 2003 I'd also like to mention that I was once in your situation. I stressed over every little thing because nothing would work out right. Well, I turned to a source I never even thought about before- Christ. I know you will probably think I am sounding like a 14th century catholic preist, but I'm tellin ya, he works. Trust me. Ever since that day I turned to him, I have been more then a conquerer over my problems. See this for more details. I think it's a really good text. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matt-Liell Posted February 5, 2003 Share Posted February 5, 2003 Originally posted by obi-wan13 I'd also like to mention that I was once in your situation. I stressed over every little thing because nothing would work out right. Well, I turned to a source I never even thought about before- Christ. I know you will probably think I am sounding like a 14th century catholic preist, but I'm tellin ya, he works. Trust me. Ever since that day I turned to him, I have been more then a conquerer over my problems. See this for more details. I think it's a really good text. Yes it does. I am a strong Roman Catholic and Christ is a big part of my life. I didn't want to mention it if you were of a different religion but now that obi said it yes I suggest that too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katarn07 Posted February 5, 2003 Share Posted February 5, 2003 Hmmm, I always thought a girlfriend brings trouble into your life so young. I see that is not always the case, just in my sister's relationships... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
git_sum_stuka Posted February 6, 2003 Share Posted February 6, 2003 i throw a brick through a window. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elessar-Eärfalas Posted February 6, 2003 Share Posted February 6, 2003 well first of all dont turn to drugs, because in the end there the ones that are going to develop the big problems. what i do to cheer myself up and relieve stress is dance... put on some music that'll get you shaking your booty and just...dance like no ones watchin! it helps trust me, makes ya smile like this ---> and cheers ya up! try it sometime....so you wont stay and . and the last thing, always remember, everything happens for a reason. cheer up man, youll be fine! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katarn07 Posted February 6, 2003 Share Posted February 6, 2003 Originally posted by git_sum_stuka i throw a brick through a window. Ummm, don't even joke about that kinda stuff man. Watch a funny movie, like pee your pants funny. A good laugh will help you out. And get some more friends you can relate to who aren't doing drugs.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-s/<itzo- Posted February 6, 2003 Share Posted February 6, 2003 smoke a cigarette and try keep my mind on something else. i really can't focus on my problems because if i do it will be the end of me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karsec Posted February 6, 2003 Share Posted February 6, 2003 I cram it down inside, and hope it doesn't eventually erupt into a violent outroar talking about how evil purple bunnies are going to take over the world with little fins on the side, or something along those lines. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-s/<itzo- Posted February 6, 2003 Share Posted February 6, 2003 and also i forgot to mention my medication, PROZAC. it helps me out alot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ratmjedi Posted February 6, 2003 Share Posted February 6, 2003 I agree with Obi. I'm not trying to make you go to church or anything but it does help. Some people say why do you pray and trust someone that you don't even know exist's. I always like to look at the story of the girl who was asked why she believes in God when she can not see him. Then she responds and says to the teacher " How do we know that you have a brain if we can't see it?" He does make some problems go away but you can never just put everything on him. Whenever I am stressed out I just like to get my CD player and go listen to music by myself. Just start thinking about life and all the things that are good or were good and think about what good you are know is going to happen in the future. Also if you have to, sock the wall. I always do that when ever I am very stressed out or evev mad. I currently have made 3 wholes in my house. Also like someone mentioned talking to their g/f. This doesn't neccesarily mean that you have to have a g/f for this to happen or even that every g/f is like that. Just find someone that you can always talk to. I have friends online that I talk to about stuff like that and it really helps. I am there for them when they need me and vice versa. And if you are in a relationship with a g/f then talk to her as well. If you guys are in a real serious relationship then talking to her always makes it better. Just make sure that you talk to someone that you know that you can trust and spill you heart out to them. It always helps to get things off your chest and to have someone listen to your problems and give you advice on them. I don't get along with my mom that well but I still talk to her and know that she loves me deep down even though you may not see it or think that it is there. Just look to the future man. You know that there are always going to be good and better things out there for you. As for your brother just ignore him and all that crap that he does to you. He just does that cause it makes him think that he can do whatever he want's but he is going to realize later down the road of life that it isn't like that in the real world. He'll learn his lesson soon enough. Just focus on yourself man. As for school don't worry about doing your best all the time. There is going to be a time in your life were you are just going to be bound to mess around and not get the best grades ever. I use to do very good in school and had good grades but then I just started to get lazy. Last term my grades weren't the best but you soon start to pay more attention and get those better grades. I am doing good in my classed now because I know that I have to graduate. I also know that I am very smart as well. Don't worry about what other people think because the only thing that truely matters in the end is what you think. Just like Eleanor Rossevelt said "Don't ever let anyone bring you down without your consent" It basically means that no one can bring you down unless you let them. Good look man. I hope that things get better and then you can look back at what you are going through right now and you'll think about it in a diffrent way and you'll laugh about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Altus_Thrawn Posted February 6, 2003 Share Posted February 6, 2003 I kick something, then play a violent game. Blowing towns up with fire in Black and White really helps. Also, I get into schoolwork, I find refuge in books. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pisces Posted February 6, 2003 Share Posted February 6, 2003 Originally posted by Katarn07 No, dont bottle it up. That is really bad. See? Knew it was bad. I also said to vent instead. Nobody seems to notice that part. Anyway. Yeah, I also tend to relieve through some of the more violent video games. Might sound stupid but it works. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katarn07 Posted February 6, 2003 Share Posted February 6, 2003 Violent video games? Isn't that how incidents like Colombine start, or not? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sithguides Posted February 6, 2003 Share Posted February 6, 2003 1) Don't do drugs. Period. It will only make things worse because you will be poor and fail in almost everything. 2) Find something you like to do, for me its basketball. It doesn't have to be sports. 3) Look for some new friends. 4) Listen to some music (Queen - Fat Bottomed Girls) 5) God does help Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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