Guest Jed Posted October 2, 2002 Share Posted October 2, 2002 I'll drink to a happy ending BTW, sum1 remember my post? Ya, I did come for advice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Taos Posted October 2, 2002 Share Posted October 2, 2002 Originally posted by Ratmjedi All I know is that me and Laura are very happy now! That's great to hear!! I hope things work out for you man!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ratmjedi Posted October 2, 2002 Share Posted October 2, 2002 Thanks man. I know thing's will turn out good cause I really want to be with her and so does she. I just can't wait to go see her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Taos Posted October 2, 2002 Share Posted October 2, 2002 Is that gonna be sometime soon or what?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ratmjedi Posted October 2, 2002 Share Posted October 2, 2002 I'm probally going to go see her after I graduate and before I leave for Boot Camp. I graduate in May and I wont leave to Boot Camp until September. I also plan on seeing her after I get out of Boot Camp In November and December. She is a Junior right now and I'm a Senior. She also plans to join the Air Force while I plan to join the Marine Corp. So hopefully I will try to see her in May. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Jed Posted October 2, 2002 Share Posted October 2, 2002 Originally posted by Jedi220 BTW, sum1 remember my post? Ya, I did come for advice Hello? Ne1? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XERXES Posted October 2, 2002 Share Posted October 2, 2002 i posted some general advice in a thread called "Girls!!!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Jed Posted October 3, 2002 Share Posted October 3, 2002 Thanx XERXES. I was wonderin if ne1 would give more "specific" help... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Jed Posted October 5, 2002 Share Posted October 5, 2002 hello? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Jed Posted October 5, 2002 Share Posted October 5, 2002 Never mind... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weapon X Posted October 5, 2002 Share Posted October 5, 2002 Originally posted by ZePhyR Wow, I'm starting to really like this forum. Everybody that I've been talking to at school has been telling me that its her loss, not mine. I'm also noticing other girls eyeing me now. Hmm, this publicity might not have been all that bad afterall. I still like Hallie a lot, but I feel like I can hold my feelings for her at bay now that we've had that talk. We were getting along really well today, too. Kind of like how things were before it got all messy. Ah yes... Yahoo Pool time. Cheers. yeah, that kinda happened to me, i liked this girl and she "liked me too" but she kept playin mind games and it made me frustrated so i said "**** it" and moved on, this other girl i know kept tellin me i was a great guy and it was her loss and all that good stuff, but we had agreed to not go out cuz our friendship means too much to lose, i've had a g/f for the past 3 weeks and it's great, she wrote me a note jokin around at how nasty i was (she made sure i knew it was a joke) and told me i was too sexy for her to even think nasty, that made me feel real good, and to top it off she's stayin w/the next door neighbor tonight and we're goin to the homecoming dance after i get off work, hopefully the night will be eventful, but i also have another problem, there are about 3-4 other girls who like me and two that hate me (the two are my g/f's best friends) and her foster mom is trying to make her mormon, it's an akward relationship and i'm surprised it's lasted this long, oh well, i guess that means i'm gonna be with her for a long time :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XERXES Posted October 5, 2002 Share Posted October 5, 2002 Originally posted by Jedi220 So here it goes.....*sigh* Let's set the scene....approx 1 year ago in an upstairs English class room, beginning of the year. Ok, i'll cut the corny ****.... A girl that sits in front of me doesn't strike my eye until a few days later, and I find her witty, shy, and cute....probably just what I look for in some1. Fast forward a few months. Upon his trustability, I tell my best friend. He promises not to say a word to ne1. I believe him, but in the end he's the main cause for what happens. Fast forward a few more months. After school, when nobody I know is around except her, it's pretty apparent that I was flirting with her. There is much fun, laughter, and kabitzing. 1 week later, I find out I was caught. Someone had saw that I was flirting with her, and what made it worse was that it was one of her friends.....bad move. I didn't want to ask her out yet, just sorta soften her up to me. But when someone else knows who you like in my high school, it spreads like smallpox. Fast forward to about June, the day before my school gets out. One of my friends conspire with his girlfriend and tell the girl I like. *Ouch* And of course, the big laugh was that every1 knew that she used to like me....except me. The summer passes, everyone forgets about it, including her, but I still do like her. But I can't even look her in the face....so.... I turn to my second family....The Swampies. there isnt really a question in here, im assuming you want to know what you should do now. Or would you like to know what you should have done? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ratmjedi Posted October 5, 2002 Share Posted October 5, 2002 Something just happened real bad. I was at the Parade for Rotc today and after the parade I decided to call Laura since we're going out now. The I got her mom and we started talking but the reception broke up. Then I called back and her mom asked how old I was. I said 17 because that's how old I am. Then she said that if I knew I was talking to a 16 year old girl. I said yes and then her mom said not anymore and then hung up on me. I was very confused because of this. Then I just got home and Laura sent me a email telling me what was going on? She said that her mom said I was 33 and that I may not be ever to talk to her again. I guess her mom misunderstood what I said because I was on a cell phone. I am so sad right now. I hope that her parents believe me. I just emailed her back and I hope she reads it. I'm so sad because our entire relationship might just end because of this. I just feel so sad right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sivy Posted October 5, 2002 Share Posted October 5, 2002 don't fear, i'm sure it will get sorted out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Jed Posted October 6, 2002 Share Posted October 6, 2002 Originally posted by XERXES there isnt really a question in here, im assuming you want to know what you should do now. Or would you like to know what you should have done? Both of those would be nice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XERXES Posted October 6, 2002 Share Posted October 6, 2002 Originally posted by Jedi220 Both of those would be nice. ok first of all....over this very ver long period of time you should have done something. It seems to me you already blew it ( i know thats harsh, but listen up) You say you heard that she was interested in you for some time. The reason it isnt like that now is because you never did anything. You should have asked for her number, done some things with her instead of just talk to her in english if you even did. Basically you should have gotten her # taken her out that kinda stuff. Im not very sure what you can do now, considering you havent done anything yet. And you said she isnt interested anymore in you its because you aparently havent done anything yet. And she is guessing you dont know what to do or just dont like her. You should have acted. Then you would have at least known weather something could have come out of it. But check this out, I stated this in my advice part. When a girl talks to you, acts funny is having a good time, thats awesome. But it doesnt necessarily mean she likes you. I mean, you shouldnt fall for every girl you meet that is talkitive and a lot of girls are just flirty to everybody. I met a girl at a party last night, she was real nice and very talkitive. But I didnt act on it cause she was just being friendly and she was not giving me hints or signals that could lead in an intimate direction. I talked to her, it was cool. Thats it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ratmjedi Posted October 6, 2002 Share Posted October 6, 2002 Well basically I am sending a copy of my birth certifacate and my Social Security Number to her parents so that the believe me. I am also going to have my Sgt. call her Chief from AFJROTC. She is in JROTC too and hopefully this will convince her parent's that I am not lying to them. I love her very much and she loves me very much too. We're both sad and hope that this gets resolved very soon. This just sucks very much but I hope that this shows her parent's that I do truly care about her. I'm sad and feel like *hit but I hope this gets sraightned out very soon. Those of you guy's that are religious here please pray for me and her and so that this gets fixed. Me and her are very much in Love and hope that this doesen't screw up what relationship we have and could of had. Thanks guys I'll keep you guys updated. Godspeed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sivy Posted October 6, 2002 Share Posted October 6, 2002 a good relationship doesn't get broken up by a little mis-understanding like that. it will be fine, i'm sure of it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ratmjedi Posted October 6, 2002 Share Posted October 6, 2002 I know. It's just that her parents think I am lying about my age. She told me that her dad even planned to threaten me to leave her alone because I'm supposedly 33. I called her and luckily straightned things out between me and her but her parent's are a diffrent story. They dont even want us to communicate cause I'm 33 supposedly. They don't even believe her. I just hope that they believe our Sgt.'s and that me and her can continue with our relationship. I love her more than words could ever describe. I just want this whole ordeal to be over with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Jed Posted October 6, 2002 Share Posted October 6, 2002 Well, that advice was ok, but it's already settled. With the advice given to me by my best friend...I talked to her. I started to chicken out, but I was my friend threatened to beat the **** out of me....and he's one big guy. So, I talked to her. Sorta like a "hey, haven't seen ya in a while, how's it goin" convo. She brought the situation up, and the dreaded "do u still like me" question occured. I replied truthfully, and it looks like she still likes me too. BUT we both agreed we're not ready to go out with each other. Looks like everything turned out for the best. Ratmjedi, ur situation...urgh, i'd want to kill the parents. Godspeed, buddy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZePhyR Posted October 8, 2002 Author Share Posted October 8, 2002 Nice Jedi... If I'm in the position to give advice, I'd say feel it out for a while, get comfortable with her again, then ask her out. Ratm... man, that really sucks. Is this a relationship over the internet, where you can't meet her parents in person? IF so, I dunno what to tell you. If its close, try talking to her parents over the phone or something and say you'd like to meet them in person. Now, just for an update on my "love life" again, here goes... After Hallie and I had our phone conversation a week ago last Sunday, I told my friends they could get me drunk this weekend, and so they did. Once we were all beyond wasted and I was past the point of rememberance, they called her at 11:30 at night. I think she might've been out of town that night for volleyball, and I didn't find out about this until I talked to her at school today. I said that I thought my friends might've called her friday night, becuz her number was in the recently called list on my cell phone saturday morning. She said that yeah, they called, and left a long message at 11:30 at night. She could tell they were drunk by the way they sounded. He said something like, "Hey, my names Cole, and I'm calling for Dan." I'm not sure what else he said on the main message, but she said that it sounded like he thought he hung up, then shouted, "Hey Dan, where's my beer?" She said she thought she heard me slur in the background "I dunno." Anywhoo, her parents heard the message, and asked her if she knew I "was like that." She said no, and they told her they didn't think it was a good idea that she hang out with or go out with me. Damn. I told her I wanted to call her parents and apologize, but she said no, it wasn't a big deal. She's also told me I make too big of a deal out of things. Wierd. What do you guys think? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ratmjedi Posted October 8, 2002 Share Posted October 8, 2002 Things are getting better now. Yesterday me and Laura talked and planned what we were going to do. Then I decided to call her house and to talk to her parent's. I called and Laura talked for a little bit just telling each other what we felt because we didn't know what was going to happen. She then went talked to her dad and there was a long moment of silence. He then got on the phone and told me this. "So you want to prove to me that you're not 33? I want you're parent's to call me and tell me themselves and I also want them to tell me how a 3,000 mile relationship is going to work". The I got to talk to Laura and we told each other that everything was going to be ok and that we we're going to make it. Then we hung up. I was so mad after this so I decided to just watch a movie and calm down. I later then got on the Internet and saw that she was on-line. I sent a few messages and no one awnsered. Then I just decided to write a email. Then today I sent the letter to her parent's proving that I was 17 and not 33. Then I talked to my Sgt. and told him what was going on. He supported me and is going to talk to her Chief later this week. Then when I got home I saw that I had gotten emails from her. I also noticed that she was online. Her sister was typing for us because she is not allowed to use the Computer or the phone.We got to talk for a little bit because she had to leave for a meeting at school. I then talked to her sister and told me what was going on. She told me that she had talked to her mom and told her that me and Laura were in love and that is was messed up what they were doing to us. She then said that we were allowed to send each other letters and that I should send pictures so that they can get to know me better.This is just a step twords something better. I also got emails from her because her dad is taking away her hotmail account but she has a yahoo account that he doesn't know about. She also got one of her friends to send me a email that Laura had to told her to send for her. It's pretty cool that her friends are supporting us. She then called me and we got to talk to her for about 30-40 minutes before the phone card died. She had her sister bring the phone downstairs to the basement so that we could talk. Me and her are so happy now. We never thought that thing's would be this good after what happened yesterday. We know that it isn't exactly the best way but we are at least going to be able to communcate. Her friend is also going to let her use her cell phone during the weekend since she gets free weekends. We are so happy know and know that thing's are going to get way much better. We are really in 3heart because ordinary couples don't this. I know that we want this relationship to last because of all the thing's we've done so far. I want to thank all of you guy's who supported me and told me that everything was going to turn out ok. I hope you guy's never have to go through this and if you do go through this know that it can actually turn out ok like mine and Laura's did. Good luck Jedi220 and I hope that thing's turn out ok with you and that girl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Taos Posted October 8, 2002 Share Posted October 8, 2002 That's kind of a bummer man about her dad......what made him think you were 33??? I glade that you two will be able to communicate with each other. There's one thing I know about relationships and that is: communication is EXTREMELY important, always be sure to let her know what you are feeling so you can discuss it. You just go from there........ *gets of advice box* *gets into bed, tired I am, must sleep* *realizes he's @ the swamp...........INSOMNIA!!!!!!!!!!* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyrion Posted October 8, 2002 Share Posted October 8, 2002 Well er..before I left school..one of the girls I liked punched me playfully and softly on the soldier..dunno what that means though..*shrugs* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Groovy Posted October 8, 2002 Share Posted October 8, 2002 It means she wants your lunch money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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