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Well, I talked to her tonight, and it went pretty well. Although I didn't take her up on her offer, she told me to call her later tonight if i wanted to do something. I also hear that's she's excited for Sunday. Oh, and if she just wants me for money, she's gonna be disappointed, cuz i dont have any.

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I don't think it's something to do.....unless of course, neither is too serious. :D If you aren't in a relationship.......who cares right? :D

 

There is a fine line though....if you find yourself spending a little bit more time with one of them.....it might be best to stop the playin. ;)

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Originally posted by Carl Shutt

That is the most idiotic, superficial thing I've heard in quite a while.

 

Dude - am not simplifing or dumbing down - in my past experence, the hgottie of the school/college/what ever was frequently on of those two.

 

In england, we don't have cheer leaders. Instead, netball teams take the role, and they do fill it as stereotypically as possible. I am sure that they can be great people, but when in social situation, they go airhead on us.

 

Would you want a girl who turned to blonde each time your with friends?

 

Anyway - 2 woman bad....

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Originally posted by Matt-Liell

Pic one its easier on everybody, including you trust me!

 

****, pic um both and send um to us...:D hehe, I love typos...:p

 

anyway, personally, i'd stay with the first one, and forget the "popular, hottest" one...

 

just a gut feeling that that combo will yield the best results...

 

both at once... BAIL OUT!!!

 

oh yes, I forgot... you know how petty it is to worry about which one of two girls to date, concidering most of us... um... well, you know... you bastard.:p

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Sorry SPY, but i thought it would be something cool to discuss. The first girl called me last night after I posted this... *Sigh*. Oh, if you guys were wondering, neither one is serious yet, that's why I didn't think it would be a big deal.

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See, it seems like the ideal and the reality are two different things.

 

 

What I was taught growing up, was that dating was something you do when you're looking for somebody you might want to someday marry. You know, a meaningful, lifetime relationship.

 

So you "shop around" and you date people, politeness of course states you don't put all your cards on the table on the first date.. you get to know the person, you discuss things that are important.

 

AND IF YOU ARE SERIOUS you go out with them long-term (ie: "going steady") and at this point, its the height of rudeness to go out with somebody else during this time.

 

You break up if you need more time to think or you have decided this person isn't the one.

 

When I was in high school, it was basically like... one date, and then you start going steady with them. And so you go out for awhile then there's a break-up. Its a lot less casual than I was brought up to think.

 

Anyway, ideally, people shouldn't have to automatically go steady. Simply dating one person one day and another person the next is no big deal.

 

Now I'm not saying GO OUT AND HAVE SEX because that'd make you irresponsible and stupid to be having sex with tons of people. That's a very bad idea, 'nuff said.

 

If you lie to people or sleep around, you'll get a reputation for it, especially in a high school or junior high setting. You've been warned! Try to leave it on a positive note.

 

But a regular date... dinner, a movie, dancing, an outing, a picnic, whatever. It's meant to get to know somebody. And if you don't go steady, at least maybe you found a new friend or you can put your anxiety to rest about that person.

 

So yeah, if you give somebody the impression that you're going steady with them, it would be very unfair to them to go steady or date somebody else at the same time. If you're going to do that, break up with them first. At least you'll be being honest.

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Thanks Kurgan. A good meaningful post there, I must say. Personally, I don't look at one date as the start of going steady. I think it takes a few dates, and then only after discussing it are you going steady with someone. Saying that after one date you go steady isn't nessecarily true either. What if the date doesn't go well? :( Oh well right, like you said, you may just have a new friend, and that's happened to me plenty enough.

 

In my case, the first girl is someone I've been friends with for a while, and it's kinda sorta developing into something a little more. I decided that if I was going to out with this girl, that's how it was gonna happen.

 

This new girl though, is someone I've had a crush on for a while. I don't know her really at all, but here we are set up for a date tomorrow, ready to start a relationship if all goes well.

 

Dating is a wierd game, and I'm just learning and understanding more and more about it as I go.

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Originally posted by ZePhyR

Dating is a wierd game, and I'm just learning and understanding more and more about it as I go.

 

I couldnt hav said any better myself.

 

In the words of Forrest Gump.

Lifes like a box of chocolates. You never know what your gonna get.

 

IMO its the same with dating :D! Let us know how the date went, if you were going on it.

 

-Clemme

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well, the new girl called me today and said she had to go to dinner with her family at 530. Kind of rude I think, but we're still gonna hang out at 430 til she has to go. So my friend is gonna find me another date for tonight, and i'll go out with the other girl next weekend. Sigh, a blind date.

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kay, here's how it breaks down

1: Carl Shutt, you're prolly one of the people who say 'stereotyping is bad', but i'm sure if you seen me in real life, you'd sterotype me froma mile away.

 

2: playas = dead men walking. Who remembers Loreinna Bobbet? Well, imagine that, times 2.

 

3: my friend went on a double date with a girl he said was the hottest in the school *gags*, and now he wont shut up cuz he never asked her out or to go steady, and he wont listen to the fact she'd of said no neways.

 

4: hotties are like this: "I'm hot, I can get whoever I want, and I will too". Baaaaaaaaad bitch. She'll end up cheatin on ya neways.

 

5: although 4 goes against datin hotties, talkin to them once or a few times can be good. if you go steady, you'll have more to talk about *my case*

 

6: ignore the *my case* because my girl isnt popular, which is how I like em. Popular usually *around here atleat* = stuck up, spoiled, whore

 

okay, my breakdown on bein a playa is done. No critisism on my breakdown please. it'll bring about no good and i'll ignore ya anyways. this is for people who want unquestioned advice.

 

Thank You

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Well, I got a phone call today from the new girl. She had to go to dinner with her folks tonight, but we did get to hang out for a little over an hour, and it was fun. My friend's date called up one of her friends, and she was my date instead. Damn, this girl was hot too. We went to dinner, which was fun, and then bowling, which was where I decided I didnt really care to get to know this other girl. She was talking almost the entire time with a kid she knew there. When we dropped her off, I got her number, although I dunno if I'll ever call her. Maybe on a rainy day ;). All this time, the first girl kept sending me text messages to my cell phone, all of which i just ignored. Damn, I'm a prick. Anyway, It was still a pretty fun day, and I'll be hanging out with the hot chick again this weekend.

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