Achilles Posted September 24, 2005 Share Posted September 24, 2005 1st things first, as previously stated, be yourself. Why? Because you can only pretend to be someone else for so long. The thing that escapes most people is the fact that there are people out there just like you. For some strange reason, some people think that you have to be "someone else" to be someone that quality people are attracted to. If you like hanging out in book stores, then hang out in book stores. You're much better off "bumping into" someone there then you are some faker in a club. Yeah, you may enjoy the club scene on occation, but odds are that you're more likely to find a club girl than a girl that's into the same things that you are. A very important distinction. Second, women are just like you except different (clear as mud, right?). They have the same doubts, motivations, insecurities as you. The trick isn't finding the "perfect woman" (she doesn't exist). The trick is finding someone that you can share time with and get through conflict with. Pretty will only last for so long. At some point you'll begin to crave a meaningful relationship that will transcend the boundaries of looks and great sex (although these are definitly bonuses that you want to keep an eye out for). Also, keep in mind that the point of life is to learn from your mistakes. You're young. Don't freak out too much about serious relationships. You'll have many loves in your life. At some point you'll be able to leave the idea of a "perfect match" behind and begin focusing on quality relationships. Have fun. If you have sex, be careful, but remember that there's something to be said for abstinence. It's all very confusing now, but give it a decade and some heartbreak and it will all begin to make sense. I promise Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lando Griffin Posted September 24, 2005 Share Posted September 24, 2005 jedi_knight_707 if shes likes u and hangs around u alot then thats good. And race sometimes does matter. Because they might have racist parents, which can be common. For instance, a white girl introduces her Mexican/ porter rican boyfriend to her parents, he lives in gheto, and she lives in a gated community. Thats not going to work out, because they have different life styles and the parents wont like him. Jedi_knight_707 u should get to know her more, pay attention to what she says and try to relate to them, ask more about her life and try to see what she likes and dislikes. If u cant get any clues from her, try going to her friends, well one of them, if u tell more than one than more people will know. Just telling one girl could be risky. Like if u find out like what kind of dudes she likes, like say skater then ur lucky. When u get to the point where u build alot of confidence ask her out. And if u cant build confidence i sujest u do physical things, like for instance Martial arts, boxing, lifting weights, work out. That should build confidence because u would feel stronger. Dont try to be other people though, just be urself. And one last thing make a good inpression on her best friend. if that bi*ch doesnt like u, u lose 50% of ur chances. Because if she says yes and u go out to the movies or something, right when she gets home she is going to tell her best friend about it, and then the next day her friend will be all over u, talkin to u askin u all these questions, always sayin hi and bye. And dont shy away from neither of them, always speak up, say what u want to say, unless its like "what the hell is with ur nose?!!!". Never say stuff like that and have a good time. if u dont have a good time with this chick then dont go out with her ever again because that just creates problems. Hope that helps u out dude. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ET Warrior Posted September 24, 2005 Share Posted September 24, 2005 Well yes, obviously when you're 13 years old you shouldn't date somebody your parents don't approve of, because you'll almost CERTAINLY end up married to this person, and how would that look? A nice rich white girl marrying a poor mexican boy? +1 to racial stereotypes! Also. Paragraphs and spelling, this isn't an AOL chat room. Ahthankyou. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Sitherino Posted September 24, 2005 Share Posted September 24, 2005 ... Since when have the parents opinions on a boy/girl mattered in a teenage relationship? This is the first time I've heard such a dreamworld notion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KNeo Posted September 24, 2005 Share Posted September 24, 2005 *agrees with prime* This thread IS cute. but anyways, let me try to be a little more helpful. Well I've only got 1 relationship and 2 years of dating under my belt. I'm 18 and started dating when I was 16. kinda weird I guess for your average girl. But anyways, not to be cocky or anything but I've been asked out A LOT. And I know that I hate when guys ask you out and you tell them you really aren't interested in them more than just friends and they continually try to change your mind. I'm not implying that you'd do that, its just a little advice. If this girl tells you she only thinks of you as a friend, don't try and change her mind. If her feelings change, I'm sure she'll let you know. That's really all I can tell you because everyone has already said be yourself. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vladimir-Vlada Posted September 24, 2005 Share Posted September 24, 2005 I sense another "Romeo and Julliet" life story... Her parents are rich and they are rasicts? Typical. Advice: Don't sacrifice yourself for love. It is FUTILE to risk everything just because of love. But if you really like her, wait for about 2-3 years. Then, you'll be sensible enough to go into a romantic realationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lando Griffin Posted September 24, 2005 Share Posted September 24, 2005 The chances of your parents not seeing your boyfriend or girlfriend are slim, because ull would hang around alot, holding hands hugging. Lets say you walk together after school, her father comes to pick her up, and unless shes a gheto asian then her parents wont care about u, but i dont think shes a gheto asian. But once she says i have or my boyfriend and her parents hear it, they want to know. Eventually the parents will see u and know who you are. Well thats if you stay with her for a while. Phone calls is another way a parent will know about his or her boyfriend, they will call each other and talk. The parents might hear your conversation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ET Warrior Posted September 24, 2005 Share Posted September 24, 2005 And this all matters because why? I'm still failing to see why you shouldn't date someone just becuase your parents might be biggots. IF they're biggots that's their own damned problem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renegade Angel Posted September 24, 2005 Share Posted September 24, 2005 I'm white, shes filipino, and I don't know...I guess I kinda dress skater boy like Perfect! Girls like skaters for some reason.... (which is why i got like 50 chicks after me....) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lukeiamyourdad Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 And this all matters because why? I'm still failing to see why you shouldn't date someone just becuase your parents might be biggots. IF they're biggots that's their own damned problem. Not if you're asian mate, not if you're asian... Asian parents are usually overprotective of their kids. Overprotective in a very bigotted way. Black men are evil, white men are evil, etc. Worst of all, those girls/guys will listen to their parents and refuse to date some of a different culture, because they'll litteraly be rejected. And I'm dead serious. I've seen it often enough. Makes me sick, but I can't really do anything about it. It'll change in one or two generations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lando Griffin Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 same goes for white too, they dont want their children going out with black kids, well alot of them dont( which is soo fu**ed up) Latino will go after anything because were allowed to, well in out minds. Middle eastern i kinda cant think of anything..ummmmmmm well i know the boys dont like other middle eastern woman and the woman like some middle easterns but mostly latino, and white. So basicaly the parents will tell the children about the other race wether its good or bad. If its good the kid would associate with those races. But then there are those parents who are racist and tell their kids that the one of the races is bad and unwanted. Then the kid most likely associate with that race but sometimes they do and just dont tell there parents. ET i am not saying just because the kid the other kid likes has racist parents doesnt mean he shouldnt date the kid. But that could leed to trouble. Like for instance alot of Mexicans parents dont like el salvadorans, so some Mexican family dont want their kid dating an El Salvadorans. But i doubt the boy will deny his parents and run the other way. that probably wont happen. So parents will come in no mattter the age, if its bad then they will come in really fast and ruin the relationship. The earlyier they stop their child the faster the child willl learn . Which is so mested up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rogue Nine Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 I'm white, shes filipino You're screwed. And not in the good way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lando Griffin Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 You're screwed. And not in the good way. LOl! well kinda, but he still has hope. If hes polite, nice, and smart you must be smart, her parents might like him, but if your rude and make yourself look like an typical American, i think they wont like u. But if the girl already learned from her parents she'll might see u as ugly, because your not her race, but i doubt that because your friends, and u said u have been friends for a long time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lukeiamyourdad Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 LOl! well kinda, but he still has hope. If hes polite, nice, and smart you must be smart, her parents might like him Not really. You need to be rich and prove them that you will go to college and get a Ph.D in something that will get you rich. Smart doesn't work on them, only money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soogz Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 I am single, and loving life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RevanA4 Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 I am single, and loving life. O_o your 15 though your still in the they don't matter phase Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lando Griffin Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 JK707 is like 13 dude, hes way too young for college. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lukeiamyourdad Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 But he must have a plan of everything he will do in his life! He must start working hard today so he can prove to his possibly in-laws that he can provide a good future for their girl by burning out at 16! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renegade Angel Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 You're screwed. And not in the good way. BLAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH! NOT IN THE GOO- AHAHAH! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Sitherino Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 O_o your 15 though your still in the they don't matter phase Well... sometimes it's nice not having to buy people stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ET Warrior Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 O_o your 15 though your still in the they don't matter phase I'm 20, single, and loving life. Having a woman is not essential to my happiness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Sitherino Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 I'm 20, single, and loving life. Having a woman is not essential to my happiness. Both hands Video games help though, right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redwing Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 *pops in out of nowhere from other forums ancient and far* PPS WHATEVER YOU DO, DONT TALK ABOUT STAR WARS AROUND A GIRL! Just an FYI: Half my closest non-Internet friends (non-Internet - so Ian, Paul, if you read this I still love you ;D) share huge Star Wars obsessions. They are all female. They - and my mother - introduced me to Star Wars. (And I know alot of people, so shut it. Also, it's none of your business what gender I am ) So stop letting stereotypes do your thinking for you. Here's a better piece of advice: Don't drive someone crazy by fan-girl/boy-ing about something they don't know anything about. That is a huge way to drive away potential friends/romantic interests, because it's annoying. P.S. Jedi_Knight_707 Don't listen to Niner. He's Filipino. Of course he says you're screwed (And before you say anything, Nine, the answer is NO ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stingerhs Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 Not really. You need to be rich and prove them that you will go to college and get a Ph.D in something that will get you rich. Smart doesn't work on them, only money. really?? hmm, i've heard of situations like that. i think i remember an article in the paper a long while back where an Indonesian girl ran away to her boyfriend's house where they both committed suicide. according to the note the couple left, the girl was upset that her parents wouldn't let her marry a white kid from a blue-collar family. what a shame. Both hands Video games help though, right? wait, now i've got the dang giggles. you people must be contagious or something.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Astrotoy7 Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 hehe - this is a cute thread indeed..... awwwww to all you ppl lookin for lurv heres some music to serenade you all while you dine at Burger King whilst on a teen date yeah, teenage dating years suck... all I can say, dont take things *too* seriously, and if you have some setbacks, dont take them too much to heart. have fun, pay attention and learn something about yourslef and others mtfbwya Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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