ZePhyR Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 Is it wrong to date 2 people at once? I've been casually dating one girl for a few weeks now, just hanging out on the weekends kind of thing, and I found out yesterday that my friend had set me up with one of the if not thee hottest girl in the entire school for a date this weekend. Now, I've liked the new girl for a while now and have only talked with her once before today, although we both knew who the other was. I'm not committed to the first girl or anything, so it's not wrong to date this other girl too is it? Opportunities to date the hottest girl in school don't come up too often, so I'd be seriously stupid if I passed it up. If things were to work out between me and the new girl, what should i do with the other one? Also, I'm only a high school kid, so I should be able to do this right? Someone reccommended I just keep quiet about it to the girls until I decide what I wanna do. A friend told me that the first girl would be hurt if i ended up with the new one though too, and I don't want to hurt her feelings. I don't look at this as playing, becuz i don't have the player mentality. Has anyone been put into these situations before? What did you do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leXX Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 Yes it's wrong. Break it off with one of the girls before you date the other. Never play, be one of the nice guys. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Surfnshannon Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 walls have ears, sooner or later one of the girls is going to find out about you dating another and they are not going to be happy about you lying to them. I think in H.S you are really supposed to stick with one girl. It is okay to date more than one girl at once if this has already been discussed with one another about not being exclusive and being able to date other people. If you try and hide it - they are going to find out - maybe not now...but someday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZePhyR Posted January 31, 2003 Author Share Posted January 31, 2003 I'm hanging out with the first girl tomorrow night. I think we'll go see a movie or something. I work Saturday, and then I have to go on a date with with the new one on Sunday. It's a double-date, but still. Ya, it doesn't feel that great, but I was put into this situation, and was too stupid to bail out earlier. But, I think I would've felt stupider if I passed it up. I think I'll try to avoid these situations if at all possible in the future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adillon Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 it was said above, but i'll reiterate ... i don't think dating two people at the same time is in your best interest, UNLESS you have discussed the fact that you are not exclusive and can date other people. my only other words of advice ... if you're going to date more than one person, try to find girls with the same first name. that will make things easier on you, and help avoid any embarassing situations. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C Shutt Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 I don't see anything wrong with this, if it really isn't serious with the first girl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShockV1.89 Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 Pick one, dude. Every see Jerry Springer? Half the time the guy confesses to both his women, and they both leave him. Almost guaranteed, that will happen. If I were you, I'd stick with the one you have now. You barely know this "hottest girl" in the school. I mean, you've talked to her once. Thats it. I wouldnt start dating somebody if I only talked to her once, no matter how hot she was. This other girl, it sounds like you already know her pretty well and like her. Stick it out, see where it goes. Thats my two cents... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rogue15 Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 hahahahahaha i don't feel sorry for you. you made a stupid decision, don't come back crying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoguePhotonic Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 It's only wrong if they don't know you are.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clemme w/Stick Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 Stick with the first girl! Dating two girls at once is a really bad idea, they'll find out eventually. Originally Posted by STTCT walls have ears, sooner or later one of the girls is going to find out about you dating another and they are not going to be happy about you lying to them. Yeah, that happened to one of my friends. He liked these two girls (He was really good friends with both of them), and he told them the exact same thing as he told the other one. What happened later, was they startet talking and they found out about what he had done. They became mad at each other, and the girls didnt wanna talk to him, untill recently when one of the girls started talking to him again. I would stick to the first one if I were you! They'll start talking one day and when they do, you'll get the blame and loose both of them! Did all this make sense? If it did, then stick to the first one!! -Clemme Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
obi Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 "I've loved a girl back in San Francisco once. No,twice." Pick the one you really like. Not the one that is "hot." I feel very much pity for people who turn down good folks for people who are "hotter." Their hearts need a tune up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SmartDragon Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 They will find out and can you imagine how bad that will make the first girl feel, even if don't think your serious she might, and how bad that will make you feel. besides you don't even know this 'hot' girl. good luck in doing the right thing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nova_wolf Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 Dude - whilst two woman at the same time (sexusally or just relationship) is a dream all men have, as wlways, reality tends to be a little less satisfying. If you like both these girls so much, how will you feel if you get one or both in heart break or wish-you-were-dead mode?! It is not worth it. Plus, never go for the hottie over someone you get on with and find attractive - hottier almost ALWAYS turns out to be a bitch or annoying airhead - bad either way. Pick one before you have gone on this date, then deal. They are more likely to respect you and remain friends with you if both say no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darklighter Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 I really don't think that dating two people is a good idea. One, you will be caught out in the end, gossip spreads, especially when the 'hottest girl in school' is involved in the equation. Two, don't you feel like you are doing something wrong? Surely there must be some sense of guilt in you for what you are doin. I recommend that you go out with the girl you want to go out with, and make it clear to the other that you wish to stay friends/acquaintances. Don't mess around, believe me, it gets you in a lot of trouble, and you'll end up losing both... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ratmjedi Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 Originally posted by nova_wolf Dude - whilst two woman at the same time (sexusally or just relationship) is a dream all men have, as wlways, reality tends to be a little less satisfying. If you like both these girls so much, how will you feel if you get one or both in heart break or wish-you-were-dead mode?! It is not worth it. Plus, never go for the hottie over someone you get on with and find attractive - hottier almost ALWAYS turns out to be a bitch or annoying airhead - bad either way. Pick one before you have gone on this date, then deal. They are more likely to respect you and remain friends with you if both say no. I can't agree with you more on the airhead and bitch thing Nova. I bet that she is going to be completly what she is going to be like. Just cause she is the hottest chick in the school doesn't mean jack didly. For all you know she has a b/f or something. And aren't you a little suspicous that the hottest girl in the school agreed to go on a date with you from out of the blue? Do you also know if it is just a date and not something more? Maybe all she wants to do is go to a movie or something. Stick with the first girl cause it seems that you guys already have something good going. Whatever decision you make think about it first. Good look with everything man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ET Warrior Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 Oh man...dating two girls.....no good can come of this. One time, i was dating this girl and she broke up with me, and then like a week later a girl asked me to a dance, and so i accepted, but then my ex asked me if i wanted to go get some dinner sometime, and i figured twas just as friends so i agreed, but then it seemed that my ex wanted it to be as more than just as friends.........wow i was FREAKING OUT that day....because i didn't want to hurt either of those girls..........but luckily for me my ex just wanted to be friends.. But the moral of the story is....NEVER DATE TWO GIRLS AT THE SAME TIME.........that's all Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C Shutt Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 Originally posted by nova_wolf Plus, never go for the hottie over someone you get on with and find attractive - hottier almost ALWAYS turns out to be a bitch or annoying airhead - bad either way. That is the most idiotic, superficial thing I've heard in quite a while. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ET Warrior Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 Hmmmm. actually, i think that deciding to date someone because she is "one of the hottest girls in school" Is the most superficial thing i've ever heard.............It's actually mostly true that the hottest girls in school most often are the ones who failed to develop an interesting personality and they're used to getting everything their way because they are "popular" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZePhyR Posted January 31, 2003 Author Share Posted January 31, 2003 Yes the new girl is hot. Yes, she is popular. Yes, she may even have a boyfriend already. I don't think any of this makes her shallow or anything. From what I've heard from others, she is a really nice person actually. But I won't really know what she's like until I call her today. The way I figure, it's just one day, and chances are I'm gonna blow it on the date with the new girl anyway. If things do happen to work out, I'll make my decision early and won't let this thing keep going. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C Shutt Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 Originally posted by ET Warrior Hmmmm. actually, i think that deciding to date someone because she is "one of the hottest girls in school" Is the most superficial thing i've ever heard.............It's actually mostly true that the hottest girls in school most often are the ones who failed to develop an interesting personality and they're used to getting everything their way because they are "popular" Bollocks. That's nothing but a stupid stereotype. You're judging the personalities of people you don't know based entirely on what they look like. How is that not superficial? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShockV1.89 Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 Originally posted by Carl Shutt Bollocks. That's nothing but a stupid stereotype. You're judging the personalities of people you don't know based entirely on what they look like. How is that not superficial? Actually, it's not what they look like, necessarily, but how much effort they place on their looks. Generally, the "hottest" girl in the school places a lot of effort into her looks. People who put a huge amount of effort into what they look like are, generally, superficial. It may sound stereotypical, but it's really not. Granted, there are definitley people out there who place a lot of effort on their looks who are also deep and friendly. But, in my experience and, apparently many others, most of them are quite shallow, fickle, and cold to all things deep and meaningul. Thats not to say that he shouldnt give the "hot" girl a chance to prove herself. But, if I were him, I wouldnt get my hopes up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
obi Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 Originally posted by Carl Shutt That is the most idiotic, superficial thing I've heard in quite a while. Hey bud, find better verbage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C Shutt Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 Huh? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matt-Liell Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 Pic one its easier on everybody, including you trust me! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZePhyR Posted January 31, 2003 Author Share Posted January 31, 2003 Well, I'm about to see if there's anything between me and the new girl. The test will be our first phone conversation... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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