Death

[leXX]

My Grandad died a couple of days ago at the grand old age of 96, my Gran last year aged 95 and with it being 9/11 and everything, I have been thinking about death for the last few days. I've never really been afraid of dying but I certainly don't want to die and leave my family without me!

 

I am afraid however of dying by fire or drowning. When I go, I wan't to be peacefully in my sleep.

 

What are your thoughts on death?

 

I know it's a morbid subject so I apologise in advance if I am depressing anyone.

[ShockV1.89]

I'm sorry to hear about your grandparents. Best wishes to you, keep your chin up.

 

I'd say I most fear death by fire and suffocation (drowning, etc...).

 

Death is... scary. Scary mostly because we have no real way of knowing what happens after you die. Some rely on religion to answer the question, but that never really worked for me. Not for death, anyway. But neither does science.

 

I guess, either way, dying brings you to one of two things: Some mystical afterlife, be it heaven, hell, paradise, nirvana, or whatever you wish to call it. (I suspect that, if it does exist, it's all the same thing (cept for hell) just under different names.)

 

If thats not the case, then it's an eternal sleep that never ends. And I, personaly, like sleeping. So thats not all that intimidating either.

 

I guess its the unknown that scares people (well, me) the most. No matter what anyone says, we simply can't know for sure....

 

My dying and leaving my family and friends without me scares me too. I went to my best friends funeral a little over a year ago, and it was agony. I dont want anyone to go through that on my behalf.

 

It's been on my mind as well, with the anniversary here and all. I worried about whether anything would happen and I wouldnt be able to say good bye to my girlfriend or family. I know, I'm just being paranoid, but thats me...

 

Scary stuff.

[BlackDove]

I'd like to die in combat. And I ain't really afraid of death...besides if it was a bad thing, everyone wouldn't do it

[JrKASperov]

Death is the unknown, but I do not fear it, for I do not fear the unknown. I AM curious.

[Clemme w/Stick]

Sorry about your grand parents....*snuff*

 

Well, I'm not afraid to die.....! We all have to die sometime anywayz, some ppl before others!

 

If I could choose one way to die in it would have to be.....in my sleep

 

-Clemme

[mima kake]

First of all I wish you and your fammily all the strenght you need lexx.

Losing some love ones Hurts Like hell.

 

I've lost a lot of relatives when I was verry young.(grand parents when i was 6 ucle's ant aunts a few years later)

And alot of them where terrible ways.(illness and drug abuse)

I've seen an college die by train accident.

And I almost died myself with a freaky explosion in a bakkery.

(I had alot of guardian angels that day)

 

But to me death is part of life.

And you have learn how to deal with it.

In any way.

Sound corny but life goes one.

 

Damn now i'm depressed

[C'jais]

Gee.... When did the swamp become serious all of a sudden?

 

I think of death as feeling nothing - hard to imagine, but I think of it as the ultimate feeling, the ultimate freedom.

 

I would never want to go out while sleeping, then I "would miss out all that heavenly glory" that death is...

[Darklighter]

I am really sorry leXX:(I know it's awful when something happens like this...I know, I've had so many family members pass away in the last 2 years:(...we have every right to feel bad, but after all it is the process of life...we're born, we live, we do the best we can, we die...it's life, and there isn't anything we can do about it...that's the whole idea of fate you know, you can't change it...

 

You know leXX I totally know what you mean...I mean I always think of death as feeling nothing too...just that I would not want to go in a way that would make my family and friends, and the ppl who loved me feel bad...that thought really disconcerts me...

[Sivy]

sorry to hear about your granparents leXX, i never really knew my gradparents most of them die before i was born apart from my dad's dad who die when i was ten.

 

my only fear of death is that there is no after-life and you just no longer exist. i have the fear that the only thing wanting is an eternal black void.

i try to have belief that there is some sort of after-life and your sprit will continue to live on.

[C'jais]

Originally posted by SivyB

my only fear of death is that there is no after-life and you just no longer exist. i have the fear that the only thing wanting is an eternal black void.

i try to have belief that there is some sort of after-life and your sprit will continue to live on.

 

A tempting fate, and one I can very well relate to, but I envision that once you've tasted this "nothingness", this removal of all desires, you'll never ever want to go back. You'll won't be there to appreciate all this, but then again - that is what makes it that more logical and luring.

 

Sorry if I come across as a blackened, pessimistic individual, but I simply can't see the logical explanation to why I've been put into this existence... To entertain all of you? To entertain myself?

[NerfYoda]

Lexx: My condolences on the loss of your grandfather.

 

If death teaches us anything its that life is prescious and altogether too short. We should use the time we have here to live full and fruitful lives, and try to make the lives of those around us better.

[Sivy]

Originally posted by cjais

 

A tempting fate, and one I can very well relate to, but I envision that once you've tasted this "nothingness", this removal of all desires, you'll never ever want to go back. You'll won't be there to appreciate all this, but then again - that is what makes it that more logical and luring.

 

 

isn’t that a contradiction in terms?

you desire to have no desire.

 

 

wouldn't you want to keep your memories, to know that you once lived?

[C'jais]

Originally posted by SivyB

 

isn’t that a contradiction in terms?

you desire to have no desire.

 

 

wouldn't you want to keep your memories, to know that you once lived?

 

Good observation -

 

1. yes.

 

2. no

[ZBomber]

LeXX, I will keep your grnadparents in my prayers. Along with ewveryone else ahs died 1 year ago.

[-[MotU]-Lyger|=-]

ya kno i F-in hate this day(9/11) sooooo f-cking stupid. i kno I am not going to die, because of some stupid date. + its pontless to worry about death, cause thats all you think about and you dont think about your actual life. real stupid to be worrying about death if you ask me, live in the moment, not the past or the future.

[Darth-Nasty]

first all i'm gonna echo what everyone else has said and offer my symapthies bout your grandparents lexx

 

however about death for some reason im not scared of it at all

and its not cos i'm a religious person who reckons there is something better, in fact im quite the opposite.

 

i just no its gonna happen whatever it is. and worring about it aint gonna change that it will

 

i only worry about things that might happen

things that will happen cant be changed so they arent worth the worry:)

 

 

I think everyone in the thread needs something trivial to lift thier spirits on a day like this with a thread like this

so as a lighthearted way of cheering people up here is a picture of gary coleman and david hasselhoff

 

 

look how happy they are.

 

lets all try and be in a happy mood for the rest of the day

after all we've got lots to be happy about:)

[Agen]

I'll also keep your grandparents in my prayers.

 

This sentence says too things.

[XERXES]

Originally posted by =SSC=Kal-El

I'd like to die in combat. And I ain't really afraid of death...besides if it was a bad thing, everyone wouldn't do it

 

why would you want to die in combat and be shiped home in a box. Or rather have your enemies take your body mutilate it and display it as a symbol of their hatred for america. Or even being shot in the leg with 7.62 ammo (the ammo AK-47 uses, is much larger than the standard NATO round) and bleeding to death. etc etc etc...i can go on and on and on because i have studied and read about war in detail in war history classes. Dying in combat...ugh it would be the last thing id want to happen to me.

 

some people i know that mention that they would like to die in combat...usually i tell them "why do you think it would be 'cool' to die in combat??" Sure most movies make combat look 'cool' or whatever. But in reality, it is horrid. Ive read memoirs of ex soldiers from vietnam, ww2, korean war. And what they talk about is literally scarry as s***. Makes you not wana be involved in combat or war.

 

Most of the stories all they can keep their mind on is staying alive, they carry items with them (meaningless items to us) but they have a very significant meanings to the soldiers. For example ive read about a soldier who always had this smooth stone from the ocean shore he would keep in his mouth. Another one carried panty hose around his neck for good luck(and ironically he never even got hurt during his tour of duty). And whevnever one of their comrades died, theyd joke around about it to keep them sane.

 

But in the case of vietnam, a LOT of soldiers wanted only to die because they knew when the get home that the anti-war protestors would hate them. They had no "coming home celebration" like the ww2 people got, there was nothing to look foward to afterwards. Nam was a very unpopular war, ive read many many soldiers shooting themselves (in the foot or something) purposely so they could get out of that hellhole.

 

This is just my opinion, but I think it is a little ignorant for a person to say "I'd like to die in combat" I think this way because of the way some movies portray combat and war. They show heroes and people triumphantly winning glorious battles They show movies that way because we want to watch people succeed. We as humans like to have heroes, so that is why movies are that way. But from what ive read, its a lot different, similar, but very different.

 

This was not intended to offend, it is not a flame or an attack against you. Im just stating some opinions.

 

Personally id like to die of old age in my sleep or something along those lines. That doesnt mean my life would have been boring.

[whitedragon]

im sorry to hear that lexx

 

i would say something about them being in a better place but i dont know if you beleave in God or not

[Agen]

I would like to die in my sleep anytime, never war. I expected kal to sya that anyway.

[XERXES]

and if your too lazy to read it, then dont post about how "oh damn i didnt wana read an essay" i took my time to write that. And it is rather quite interesting. If you guys wana know some of the books ive read PM me.

[Clem]

Firstly again my condolences lexx ... but both your grandparents had good long lives ... longer than many ... thats something to be thankful

 

i myself do not like my life ... and relish the fact that when i die .... nothing .... i will not know there is nothing ... cos my brain will no longer function. the only part of death that i DREAD is the idea of another 80 years of this

[XERXES]

and lexx, i send you my deepest sorrow. Ive had to deal with my grandparents dying 4 years ago. And not even 4 months ago 3 of my closest friends all died in a car accident i was supposed to be in. If you really want to talk about it PM me or something, im here.

[lsd|Wee Bitch]

I believe in God so I too will keep you and your family in me prayers. As for death, it's never scared me. What scraes me is becoming a vegetable or a quadrapalegic. I just take everything day by day. If I die today, oh well. If not, that's spiffy too.

 

To comment on what cjais said, if there is no afterlife, we cease to exist after our body dies. We won't feel anything because we are no more, so desires wouldn't exist nor would a taste of nothingness. So there would be no black void no memories, no spirit to survive. Nothing. That's depressing. Isn't it more interesting to at least have a hope of an afterlife? Not saying you don't believe that, but just a thought.

[Clem]

the afterlife is comforting for people who like their lives

 

for people who dont like them .... the thought of eternity ... is $%^£%$^ SCARY