Reborn Outcast Posted December 12, 2002 Share Posted December 12, 2002 I am in agony about if I should ask this very special girl out somewhere or if I shouldn't because if she says no then it would kinda ruin a great friendship. I can't take it!!! If ANYONE can help... PLEASE DO. (This is the same girl that I mentioned in my other thread called Girl Problems) AARRRGGG *runs away pulling his hair out* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GonkH8er Posted December 12, 2002 Share Posted December 12, 2002 They say the best relationships spawn from friendships. I tend to disagree. If you're not sure, I say don't risk ruining the friendship, unless oyu're sure she feels the same way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dark Warrior Posted December 12, 2002 Share Posted December 12, 2002 I was in a similar situation I know what is like. What I do is slowly start getting closer to her, and look for signs. If she ever feels uncomfortable back off, if not slowly start getting closer giving signs of your own. Iknow it sounds weird but you will know. You will feel the connection if it is meant to be. But remember don't make her feel uncomfortable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rogue15 Posted December 12, 2002 Share Posted December 12, 2002 just ask her if she finds you attractive. if she says 'not in that kinda way' then u won't need to risk anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JediNyt Posted December 12, 2002 Share Posted December 12, 2002 Yes to Dark Warrior you listen. Cautious and clear minded you must be. Let her make the first real move. Until then be subtle and patient. But if its taking way too long and your getting tired of the whole thing its time to look for someone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-s/<itzo- Posted December 12, 2002 Share Posted December 12, 2002 get her drunk and she'll agree with anything you say. just playin' ok well keeping the truth from the ones you care for only hurts them in my opinion. all i'll i can say is go for it. i mean if you really like her and if your're willing to, why not. beam me up scotty Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheHobGoblin Posted December 12, 2002 Share Posted December 12, 2002 That's a good process but it is very time consuming. Do a little of that but make MAJOR MOVE soon. Tomorrow I gotta for me. I'm nevious and lost. Oh well............... :confused: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JediNyt Posted December 12, 2002 Share Posted December 12, 2002 Relax. Use the Force. Think. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chewbacco Posted December 12, 2002 Share Posted December 12, 2002 If she has known you for a while and you are not a loser of the whole student body. I say there is 90% chance that she will say yes. Your focusing on the negetive. Be fearless and ask her. Don't think yourself as an outcast. Which is your name. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darklighter Posted December 12, 2002 Share Posted December 12, 2002 It all depends on how long you've known her, and what your relationship is like. If she does not feel the same way, or you don't know, then I don't know how it will turn. Maybe good, maybe bad. Flirt with her, act really affectionately towards her, and see if she does the same back. Take it one step further, and if she doesn't back down, then you know she feels the same. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Surfnshannon Posted December 12, 2002 Share Posted December 12, 2002 find out if she "likes" you too first. You might ask her out and get the wrong impression. She may just think your going out as just friends and then all of a sudden you show up with a rose. I've had that happen before...and you feel....odd. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rogue Nine Posted December 12, 2002 Share Posted December 12, 2002 You have a great friendship, right? A friendship that should last through thick and thin, no matter what. Nothing is earned by doing nothing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reborn Outcast Posted December 12, 2002 Author Share Posted December 12, 2002 Thanks everyone!!! Yea the only thing I'm afraid thats going to happen is that she'll say no nad then it would be weird to talk to her again. But I think I have to take that chance. Thanks for all the help everyone... I think I'll do it sometime soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZBomber Posted December 12, 2002 Share Posted December 12, 2002 Heh, dude. I asked a girl out before, and she said no. But AMOF, we are even better friends now. If you ask her, and it ruins your relationship, don't worry, because its not worth it. She wouldn't be a good friend as you thought. Everyone has these feelings, so just go for it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff38 Posted December 12, 2002 Share Posted December 12, 2002 because if she says no then it would kinda ruin a great friendship. No it won't, revealing a hidden part of yourself to a friend won't ruin friendship. So even if she is not romantically interested, she will be flattered and no doubt like you even more. Besides she probably knows you like her anyway. Trust me on this one I have been there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Petrillo Posted December 12, 2002 Share Posted December 12, 2002 did u do it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reborn Outcast Posted December 12, 2002 Author Share Posted December 12, 2002 I'm going to do it tonight... we have some sort of hypnotist show at our school so that'll be the best time I think. Wish me luck lol!!! *crosses fingers* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheHobGoblin Posted December 13, 2002 Share Posted December 13, 2002 *Hobgoblin crosses finger as he TALKS aka Threatins the girl to go out with him j/k * Good Luck I asked my girl tomorrow friday we're going out :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bob Gnarly Posted December 13, 2002 Share Posted December 13, 2002 are you going to keep talking in third person all the time hob because that can tend to be annoying Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ET Warrior Posted December 13, 2002 Share Posted December 13, 2002 oooo, good idea doin it at a hypnotist thing....if it all turns out weird, the next day you ask her why things are so weird now. If SHE says it's weird now that you asked her out be all "WHAT? when the heck did i ask you out?" and blame her confusion on the hypnotist.......even if she didn't go up. TELL her she did....and then.....oh dear, i'm rambling.... Well i wish you the best of luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reborn Outcast Posted December 13, 2002 Author Share Posted December 13, 2002 You guys can beat me with some heavy sticks or metal poles now. :( I couldn't do it. I can talk to her just fine but whenever the time comes when I actually have an opportunity to ask her, my heart falls into my stomach and dissolves, my lungs squeeze up so I get dizzy and I can't breath and my brain doesn't function correctly. Please tell me that some of you hav experienced this. I'VE GOT TO DO IT TOMORROW OR I'M GONNA DIE AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rogue15 Posted December 13, 2002 Share Posted December 13, 2002 loser!!! good luck next time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pisces Posted December 13, 2002 Share Posted December 13, 2002 Good luck man. And DO IT if you're going to. I'm actually in the same situation and I'm using Dark Warrior's methoid. Closer, closer...and, you get the idea. I'm not going to risk our friendship over it, I'm happy taking my time. Just, you know, if you have any second thoughts about asking her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheHobGoblin Posted December 13, 2002 Share Posted December 13, 2002 We all have fear. Just becuase it makes you think it will stop doesn't make it invincible. I conquered it today and look where I am I'm going on a date friday. Good luck. Remember Fear is just a figment of your imangination (spelling bad I know) PS. Okay I wont toalk in third person Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ET Warrior Posted December 13, 2002 Share Posted December 13, 2002 Use the ET Warrior method, as I like to call it...I'm probably not the only person who does this as a method of asking people out, but It's all I use and it's failed me only once. Here it is, prepare yourself. Some situation where you two are talking, but nobody else is listening to your conversation is preferable. Towards the end of your conversation, just before you're ready to go so that if it goes not well it doesn't end up all ackward, you simply say.."So........what're you doin this weekend?" If she has no plans, you say "Well that's neat......i was wondering if, maybe since you're not doing anything if you'd want to go see a movie or something....." If she says she IS busy, then you say "Oh, well i was hoping maybe we could see a movie or somethin, but maybe some other time." My goal when doing this is to be as goofy and cute as i can make myself. (17 years old and i still rely on cuteness to get dates..i'm pathetic ) You donot need to use this method, i'm simply telling you so it's an option. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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