JediKnight707 Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 I am 13, and I'm getting lonely . Anyway, this is kinda a question for the girls? HOW THE HELL SHOULD I ASK THIS GIRL I LIKE OUT? girls tend to know girls best, so what would be the best way? And I know that you guys have more exp. than me in this so any help is gr8!
lukeiamyourdad Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Just tell her you like her and you'd like to go out with her sometimes. There's no magic trick. Just be calm and being stupid can sometimes be "cute". Just don't be too stupid. You get the idea. Is it just me or has Ahto become the perfect place for relationship advice?
lukeiamyourdad Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 a letter and flowers. and a poem. I understand about the poem and flowers but what is the letter about?
stingerhs Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 I understand about the poem and flowers but what is the letter about?so you don't have to tell her in person??? Is it just me or has Ahto become the perfect place for relationship advice?why do i sense Vladimir about to storm in calling for an end to the madness???
JediKnight707 Posted September 23, 2005 Author Posted September 23, 2005 It has, it has...now one thing that you should know is that i asked her out once and she didn't say anything then and she still hasn't brought it up. I'm friends with her and everything, and I don't have any problem if she like doesn't want to go out with me, but I just wish she would say no.
Rogue15 Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 I understand about the poem and flowers but what is the letter about? oh, that's just the fine print.
lukeiamyourdad Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 so you don't have to tell her in person??? why do i sense Vladimir about to storm in calling for an end to the madness??? But that's weird and just reeks of a lack of courage. It has, it has...now one thing that you should know is that i asked her out once and she didn't say anything then and she still hasn't brought it up. I'm friends with her and everything, and I don't have any problem if she like doesn't want to go out with me, but I just wish she would say no. Ask again but avoid being too pushy.
Astrotoy7 Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 wow..... AHTO seems to be "lonely teenage boy hangout" Things like going out for a movie dinner, mudwrestling all work, time and again and make sure you act confidently, allow the lady to talk about themselves, pretend to be interested when she talks about poetry, or clothes, even if youre not( This may seem deceitful but it is very VERY IMPORTANT IN THE EARLY STAGES !!) Last but not least, little thoughtful gifts go a long way, but dont overdo it, and only do that a little later on. also, be yourself, it will come out eventually so go with it. And even if things dont work out, it is a learning exerience. Dont let it get you down, thats ridiculous, there are actually quite alot of women on the planet mtfbwya
stingerhs Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 ahh, my suggestion would now be to be patient. don't push the issue or you may end up pushing her away. trust me: things like this can be quite delicate. and besides, who said you had to go for the touchdown when you can still get a first down?? ask her to go to the movies with you and a couple of other friends; hang out with her outside of school; do things with her. basically: be a great friend to build trust and to give both of you a type of intimacy that you can already be sharing before you delve into the romantic aspects. and if she doesn't want to get romantic, thats still just fine because you still have a great friend. above all remember this: good things come to those who wait.
JediKnight707 Posted September 23, 2005 Author Posted September 23, 2005 ahh, my suggestion would now be to be patient. don't push the issue or you may end up pushing her away. trust me: things like this can be quite delicate. and besides, who said you had to go for the touchdown when you can still get a first down?? ask her to go to the movies with you and a couple of other friends; hang out with her outside of school; do things with her. basically: be a great friend to build trust and to give both of you a type of intimacy that you can already be sharing before you delve into the romantic aspects. and if she doesn't want to get romantic, thats still just fine because you still have a great friend. above all remember this: good things come to those who wait. Well, I'm already at the good friend stage, we've been good friends for a while now. I fear, however, that I might be too far in the good friend stage, and now she might not want to go out with me becuase she thinks that if we break up we will like hate each other or something. @Astrotoy I haven't asked her out, so its not like we can do that kinda stuff (but when I do get a girlfriend, I'll keep those in mind)!
stingerhs Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 well, i'm not really trying to say that you need to let her do the asking. the point is: work your way into it. make yourself a better friend than you already are. remember: the difference between mere 'friends' and 'best friends' is intimacy. if you can get to know her beyond the visage that everyone sees in public, it should be much easier to ask her to turn the relationship into a romantic relationship. its just a much smaller jump to take if you go that route since you would already know each other so well. the only problem is that this kind of 'relationship kneading' takes a lot of time, just as the transition from mere 'friends' to 'best friends' also takes a lot of time. at the same time, this also presents you with the opportunity to know her inner workings much better than you do currently. you might find that she has a number of qualities that just don't agree with you. in that case, you can still reserve the judgement to continue pressing on, or you can move on. but, like i stated earlier, it takes time. just be mindful of opportunities as they arise and then act on them. things will definately come together.
JediKnight707 Posted September 23, 2005 Author Posted September 23, 2005 Alfright I'll take that advice...maybe at the end of the year...I've waited 13 years for a girlfriend I think I can wait 7 more months...thx again
El Sitherino Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Chicks dig Yoda, so throw out some quotes.
RevanA4 Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 WTF THIS ALL STARTED AFTER I ENDED MINE QUEST FOR KNOWLEDGE ON THIS bwahahahahahahaahahahahahaha sorrry kiddies if there is one thing I learned it is there is NO correct answer it depends on the GIRL/WOMAN so
RaV™ Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 this thread should be , but I don't have that sort of power :-\
ET Warrior Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Or maybe you should leave the moderating to the moderators?
Fuu Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 My question is: how many of the peole who have responded to this thread are women? He did ask for a girl's advice. My suggestion. Find out something she really likes to do. Find out what her intrests are and see if you can work it into a date. Find out her birthday and get her a boquet of the flower for her birth month, or find out what her fave flower is and get that. This seems cheezy, but a well thoulght out bouquet really is meaningfull. A random bouquet would be a more lame attempt. And, be patient.. if you've already asked her, wait a while. Shes young and confused too, you dont want to freak her out by putting too much pressure. Relax, if youre good friends and its meant to be then something will develop between you. @ RaV Ooooo talkin smack to the moderators You should be nice to them..... they do thier job so we can have a forum at all! Ahhh the semantics of being human! Fuu
Lynk Former Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Chicks dig Yoda, so throw out some quotes. Best time to do it is when you're in bed together *nods* "Feel the Force, you must. Hmmmmm" O.O
Renegade Angel Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Heres what I say... "So, Um.... You goin' out with anyone?" "No" "Cool.... Um.... I was wonderin' if you wanna go see a movie Friday or..." "Sure, sounds cool..." Then we drop and make out for 4 hours straight. Actually, I just wrote a note saying that... well.... She was a nice person and she was cool.... and I kinda like her. She wrote abck saying And I quote.... How sweet! I think you're a very nice boy, would you like to go out sometime? and I answered.... Yeah, sounds cool PS Link former, that just really creeped me out! PPS WHATEVER YOU DO, DONT TALK ABOUT STAR WARS AROUND A GIRL! Anyways, I wrote that note today, and she said she was too scared to to tell me she likes me. Now we're.... Well.... In love!\ PPPS Make sure you like the girl becasue she's nice AND smart and blah blah blah... If oyu just like them because shes hot, they will break up with you faster. Trust me.
ET Warrior Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 then do whats right.. We will, don't worry about it.
RevanA4 Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 My question is: how many of the peole who have responded to this thread are women? He did ask for a girl's advice. My suggestion. Find out something she really likes to do. Find out what her intrests are and see if you can work it into a date. Find out her birthday and get her a boquet of the flower for her birth month, or find out what her fave flower is and get that. This seems cheezy, but a well thoulght out bouquet really is meaningfull. A random bouquet would be a more lame attempt. And, be patient.. if you've already asked her, wait a while. Shes young and confused too, you dont want to freak her out by putting too much pressure. Relax, if youre good friends and its meant to be then something will develop between you. @ RaV Ooooo talkin smack to the moderators You should be nice to them..... they do thier job so we can have a forum at all! Ahhh the semantics of being human! Fuu >_< I already have a thread created for this type of thing >_< it specificaly states that I WANTED GIRLS ADVICE but yeah the best advice is BE YOURSELF
Vladimir-Vlada Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 why do i sense Vladimir about to storm in calling for an end to the madness??? Well maybe it's because I like to do that. Anyway, if you think that you have great goals in life that will endanger someone. DON'T ASK HER OUT AND FORGET ABOUT IT. But if you do, then just be honest, nice (if you hit her, you're on my ignore list :), good, find common things, show her that you care and most immportantly: DON'T ALLOW HER TO TWIST YOU AROUND HER FINGER. That's all. P.S. If you don't want to do any of that. Just forget about this madness.
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