PhantomHelix Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 Ok, heres whats going on.... I havent been posting much because im goin through a really tough time right now, being a 14 year old teenager. I have just started high school and i am so ****ing confused (my swearing defies the code of the academy so i apologize now) with everything. My social life is kinda going down the drain at the moment and i am really starting to delve into a somewhat-depression mode. all my friends have either turned against me or just wait for me to do somethin instead of starting something themselves, and the girl i liked (she liked me too) now likes someone else, and my best friends arent as loyal as they were. my community of dependable friends is down to 3 friends from school, a few from out of town, and my friends from the forums. its a really tough time now, and im really screwed up. i feel like **** all the time and i havent been happy in weeks, and i dont know what to do. im not gonna be leaving the forum, but my posting amount will be severely reduced. i just need support right now from my friends, and it isnt happening......so, ill be around, but not as much. i just have to sort out the ****, and i will probably been on fulltime again in about 1 month or so...... :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dath Maximus Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 sorry to hear that, remeber you are always welcom here. hope everything goes good for you soon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhantomHelix Posted September 11, 2002 Author Share Posted September 11, 2002 im glad someone cares.....you dont know how much it means to have friends in the swamp....... *sniffs* I LUV U MAN! :D:D:D:D:D jk lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyrion Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 I have it worse,I am in junior high.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dath Maximus Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 well as a junior in high school i have some advice, it gets better. after a while youll be fine, new friends and stuff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhantomHelix Posted September 11, 2002 Author Share Posted September 11, 2002 i hope youre right.......it really sux now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sivy Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 When it rains, it pours my friend. It’s good to have lots of friends, but friends come and go. You’re only going a couple are really good friends, one that are always reliable and methodically speaking, will take a bullet for you. It’s important to try and hang on to them, but most you will drift apart from. I had a lot of good friends but unfortunately they got into drugs and it really wasn’t my scene so I had to leave all of them. It was hard and I was really lonely and depressed, but I found new friends who were really good and I trusted. When you like a girl it’s important to make your move, being rejected is painful but so is the feeling of losing your chance and wishing you had said something while you still could and also not knowing what might of happened. Being a teenager is hard and there are a lot of trails and tribulations, the most important thing is staying positive, as being negative will only make matters worst, believe me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
acdcfanbill Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 take care of you first man, and when you get the time stop in, we'll still be here... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ratmjedi Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 Keep up the faith man. You should read my post below. You atleast got more responses then me so that means someone cares. Hope to see you more often man. High School will only get better as it begins to end. It will get better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlackDove Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 Originally posted by phantom827 Ok, heres whats going on.... I havent been posting much because im goin through a really tough time right now, being a 14 year old teenager. I have just started high school and i am so ****ing confused (my swearing defies the code of the academy so i apologize now) with everything. My social life is kinda going down the drain at the moment and i am really starting to delve into a somewhat-depression mode. all my friends have either turned against me or just wait for me to do somethin instead of starting something themselves, and the girl i liked (she liked me too) now likes someone else, and my best friends arent as loyal as they were. my community of dependable friends is down to 3 friends from school, a few from out of town, and my friends from the forums. its a really tough time now, and im really screwed up. i feel like **** all the time and i havent been happy in weeks, and i dont know what to do. im not gonna be leaving the forum, but my posting amount will be severely reduced. i just need support right now from my friends, and it isnt happening......so, ill be around, but not as much. i just have to sort out the ****, and i will probably been on fulltime again in about 1 month or so...... :( Take a shotgun and start shootin j/k of course...whoever thought that was serious should take the shotgun and point it at themselves... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darklighter Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 I'm really sorry to hear that Phantom...I hate it when things can get that bad:(though you know you can always talk to you're friends on here about it...we'll always stand by ya:)... ...and shout and order you around like all good masters should:Dlol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kstar__2 Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 whe are always here 4 ya! mayB you should try to get some new friends, and don't stop posting here!, when you post here, everything seems less worse! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pad Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 Originally posted by kstar__2 whe are always here 4 ya! mayB you should try to get some new friends, and don't stop posting here!, when you post here, everything seems less worse! i agree with this fella Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lsd|Wee Bitch Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 Hey...don't fret. I know you don't know me, I'm new here, but I kind of know where youre coming from. My first day of High School I think I was the only one of my friends that wasn't nervous. Then all of a sudden sh!t went wrong. My friends weren't my friends anymore and I became sort of secluded. Crap was going wrong at home as well as at school. I ended up delving into things I never should have done and my life kept taking turns for the worse. I had one friend who was a compulsive liar and decided it would be funny to spread rumors that I was a lesbian. I ended up skipping school to hang out with my fellow potheads and eventually stopped going. Soon after I realized that I this wasn't the life I wanted and that by giving into what people say and letting them get to me, I made it worse for myself. So I picked my self back up, quit the drugs and started over. I'm not saying my life parallels yours or that you should end up dropping out like I did. What I'm trying to say is you have to make the best of what you have, and realize that everyday is a new day, and that there is hope out there to make new friends, find new girls, get yourself together. This is one of the hardest times for teenagers. Hormones are raging and things seem worse than they really are. Know who you are and what you want. No one can take that away from you or make you feel inferior without your consent. Don't do what I did and find solace in drugs or alcohol. Find it in yourself and the new friends you'll make. Life won't always be peachy but you make it through. I sound depressing don't I? If you read this you'll probably feel worse, but that wsn't my intention. Things will get better. It's only 4 years of your life. Don't worry, you sound pretty cool ands I don't think you'll have problems making friends. If you do, take =SSC=Kal-El's advice. j/k Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Absurd Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 If you need friends, you are overly insecure. Be happy with yourself first, before you accompany others. Don't be so dependent on other people - it's weak. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lsd|Wee Bitch Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 Originally posted by Absurd If you need friends, you are overly insecure. Be happy with yourself first, before you accompany others. Don't be so dependent on other people - it's weak. I sincerely hope you're joking... Being dependent on other's is weak, having friends or wanting someone to let off steam with doesn't make you insecure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Absurd Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 The perfect individual doesn't need to rely on others for counseling. If a person can avoid the need, the closer to perfection he or she will become. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kstar__2 Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 he, i like being alone better than being with friends sometimes, "i'm so perfect, it almost scares me........" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darklighter Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 Wow lsd|Wee Bitch, what you said is just so true... Things always turn out for the best...it seems so bad, but it'll get better if you keep at it, don't give up...listen to me, I'm 16 and counselling you lol...I should be worrying too really:(lol... Be yourself...and don't give up...that's all I can say. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhantomHelix Posted September 11, 2002 Author Share Posted September 11, 2002 Thanx everyone for the support. it means more to me then you think it does. thanks lsd|Wee Bitch, kstar__2, Darklighter (master lol), Padanime, =SSC=Kal-El, ratmjedi, acdcfanbill, Sivyb, Dath Maximus, and Tyrion for the help. im not gonna get help from a shrink cause they never help anyway, they just piss me off, so ill recover soon. i just gotta get some more friends. and im sorry for being rude Absurd, but SHUT UP!!! no one is perfect, and if you happen to be, then i dont know why you bother talking to imperfect people like us. lay off! and having friends is a natural feeling. its a form of security and a good source to bounce ideas off of.......so just leave me alone...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lsd|Wee Bitch Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 No problem phantom Anytime... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Absurd Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 Originally posted by phantom827 Thanx everyone for the support. it means more to me then you think it does. thanks lsd|Wee Bitch, kstar__2, Darklighter (master lol), Padanime, =SSC=Kal-El, ratmjedi, acdcfanbill, Sivyb, Dath Maximus, and Tyrion for the help. im not gonna get help from a shrink cause they never help anyway, they just piss me off, so ill recover soon. i just gotta get some more friends. and im sorry for being rude Absurd, but SHUT UP!!! no one is perfect, and if you happen to be, then i dont know why you bother talking to imperfect people like us. lay off! and having friends is a natural feeling. its a form of security and a good source to bounce ideas off of.......so just leave me alone...... You'll never mature, grow, and progress if you continue to rely on other people for sympathy. You must solve most of your problems (especially pyschological ones) within yourself. Otherwise you'll always be this way the rest of your life. Is that what you want? Being dependent on others for emotional problems you can learn to solve yourself? Always 'feel' alone? These people handed you crutches. I gave you a perspective on how to better yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Agen Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 Look Absurd, of course it's good to be able to be alone and not get lonely but it can go too far. Having freinds is always good and we'll always support you phantom! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chastan Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 absurd you need friends otherwise I think you're a little deficient Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Absurd Posted September 11, 2002 Share Posted September 11, 2002 If you 'need' friends that's a problem and leads to dependence. That's like 'needing' a computer or TV for therapy. It's nice to have people to know and discuss things, but to rely on them to solve problems of insecurity or emotional issues will just lead to more problems than one had in the beginning. If you can't understand this, than I don't know how else to explain it. Look up 'co-dependence' and 'self-actualization'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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