Rogue15 Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 heh, there's no true love for me. And i am 22, never had a girlfriend, sometimes i care and get depressed, but then i come to the conclusion of, if i happen upon my one and she happened to want or have children, it would be a downhill spiral from there on. i HATE children and babies. So what's the point in it anyway. though it would be nice to have someone looking forward to spend time with me and vice versa if the children/babies thing was outta the question and we both had similar interests. every time i meet a girl that i happen to really like or am physically attracted to, i find out she's not gonna be around long, drinks/smokes (alcohol/smoking sickens me), or has a boyfriend or children, or she simply disappears either to college or to another state, never to be seen again....and then i get slightly depressed/mad for a week or two, start thinking of how old i'm getting, and how many goals i failed to accomplish, etc. if there is such thing as true love, i must have passed it already. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jae Onasi Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 True love and love at first sight are two different things. The latter can grow into the former, though. And yes, I do. I would have never believed it if it hadn't happened to me, but Mrs. Mace and I just came back from celebrating our 7th wedding anniversary in Galway. I agree that true love/love at first sight are entirely different. It definitely wasn't love at first sight for us. I thought Jimbo was this gawky thing and he thought I was immature (I was. My family still accuses me of that, but now I don't care anymore. ). Congrats on the 7th anniversary! 2) It's like finding a job. It's a process of no, no, no, no, no, YES. The yesses are the ones you'll remember in the end, believe me. I had a some high school/college crushes/dates that went nowhere, an engagement that died (better for the relationship to die before the marriage than after), all before Jimbo came on the scene. Turn off your computer immediately and get off your butt, go outside. Eat healthy foods, go to the gym regularly, and bathe every day. Then join clubs, check out your community, and GO MEET SOME CHICKS!!! NOW!!! My god man, you MUST start getting used to less-than-perfect romance settings and situations so you'll know how to handle the awkwardness of the real thing. Go out and get laid with everyone. That's right, tonight, go tell your friends, "Hey guys, I wanna get laid tonight!" and have them help you find suitable quarry. It's even better if she's not the woman of your dreams, because you need practice before you meet her. I'll agree with the first part--not that we want you to go away, Herbie, but you can't meet people on the computer easily--much better to see people in real life. Find a group that has some of the same interests as you and go to some meetings/get-togethers/events/etc. Jimbo and I met in a history re-enactment group. BTW, if you want to meet 'nice girls', look in places where nice girls hang out--library, church, colleges, etc. If you want a party girl, go where party girls hang out, obviously. If you love computers, go take a computer class and talk with the girls in class. I'll disagree with the second part--you don't have to 'get laid' with a billion (or even a few) girls to find the right person. "Good in bed" is not the same as "good in marriage". If fact, you don't have to do the 'wild thing' at all to find the right person, otherwise Jimbo and I would never have found each other. The need for bed experience is over-rated, as if you have to have a PhD in sex to be the perfect partner. You don't. It's not rocket science, people figure it out all the time. An advantage of no experience is that there's no emotional/physical baggage carried over from previous experiences. You just have to spend time getting to know people. With the incidence of sexually transmitted diseases, it's best to keep bedpartners to the minimum anyway. If you're not ready to be a father, the single best way not to become one is just not to do it. Marriage/true love isn't about making sure you have a bedpartner every night, anyway, it's about finding a person to share your life with and who wants to share their life with you. Yeah, there's the physical relationship--we have 2 kids, after all. But that's just part of the whole marriage experience. Men and women debate on how big a part, of course. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emperor Devon Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 heh, there's no true love for me. Keep thinking that, and there never will be. if there is such thing as true love, i must have passed it already. True love is not a thing that passes you by. You don't reach a certain age where you have to find it or all is lost. You can still search for love when you're old and grey, though there's no need to do that if you find it now. You said you're in college? That's the start of the prime of your life! Don't waste it moping here that you can't find love! You could be going out right now to prove yourself wrong! There are several billion people on this planet, around half of which are female. Surely there's not someone out there for you? But if all you do is think how unfortunate you are that you can't find love, you will never find it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prime Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Aww.. a picture of some ugly **** and his girlfriend That's wife... i HATE children and babies.How can you hate babies?!? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mace MacLeod Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Congrats on the 7th anniversary! Thanks! I'll disagree with the second part--you don't have to 'get laid' with a billion (or even a few) girls to find the right person. "Good in bed" is not the same as "good in marriage". If fact, you don't have to do the 'wild thing' at all to find the right person, otherwise Jimbo and I would never have found each other. The need for bed experience is over-rated, as if you have to have a PhD in sex to be the perfect partner. You don't. It's not rocket science, people figure it out all the time. An advantage of no experience is that there's no emotional/physical baggage carried over from previous experiences. You just have to spend time getting to know people. With the incidence of sexually transmitted diseases, it's best to keep bedpartners to the minimum anyway. If you're not ready to be a father, the single best way not to become one is just not to do it. Marriage/true love isn't about making sure you have a bedpartner every night, anyway, it's about finding a person to share your life with and who wants to share their life with you. Yeah, there's the physical relationship--we have 2 kids, after all. But that's just part of the whole marriage experience. Men and women debate on how big a part, of course. Okay. That's one opinion, and I have another. In order not to hijack this thread, I will begin another. *edit* And that thread will then be consigned to digital limbo because I started to hit a little too close to home. *shakes head* I mean, just lock it, delete it or PM me if you're that choked about it. Some people are waaaaaaaaay too touchy. For everyone: yes, True Love does exist. The thing is, you can't find it, it has to find you. You can pick a lot of things in this world: dates, jobs, lovers...but you can't choose who you fall in love with. @Raven_Onasi: congrats to whoever the new boyfriend is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
igyman Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 True Love? Never thought about it too much. I suppose it exists, but for now I'll be satisfied with a relationship based on ''bed gymnastics''. Hot girls, come to me! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prime Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 I'm sure they will find that kind if invitation enticing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rogue15 Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 notice how the baby in the picture is not crying or screaming at frequencies that could shatter bulletproof glass? i don't go to college. I was in the army for basic in 2k4, ELS'd for failing the pt, so i'm working on that and am wanting to go back, so i think there's really no sense in "looking" for a girlfriend when i know in the back of my head that in a few months i could be ready to go back, and not sure if having the girlfriend 'back at home' nonsense would be the best thing for me or her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth InSidious Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Yes. What? You want the minutiae of my past experiences? Go screw it out of the Vorlon government. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HerbieZ Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 I feel for you Rogue. Adding to my other excuses, my family life is cack at the moment and i think if i added a girl to the equation, she'd be mortified at my life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Scriblerian Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 True love? Yes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Doctor Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Well. This is an interesting conversation. I must admit that for the longest time, I was of the same mind as those who refuted the existence of 'love'. I thought of it as a cheesy concept invented by Hollywood to make money. Nothing more. I'm the lonely little Trekkie who sits at the back of the room in every class, never talking to anyone. Of course I thought that way. But recently - just under two months ago, actually - I learned different. It's not something invented by the media. It's not something to ignore, throwing it out as a lame concept of no real value. It's real. It's incredible. I believe in true love, yes. Other than his advice about sex, Mace's thread is a pretty good 'cheat-sheet', for lack of a better term. Should be common sense, but for some reason, it's not. As for love at first sight? No. That's not real. It can't be. Be definition. Love is a bond that develops between two people over time. You can't fall in love based on appearance. You just can't. Anyone who says otherwise is wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HerbieZ Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 I think it's personal opinion rather than taking value in the words that are actually said by the meaning "Love at first sight". I believe yes, but have experienced it, no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jae Onasi Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Okay. That's one opinion, and I have another. In order not to hijack this thread, I will begin another. Never meant to imply you had to agree with my opinion. You can find true love without swinging from the rafters with every other girl. And waiting was a lifestyle choice, not a 'bible thumper' one, because I wasn't really religious at that point.... @igy-- @Rogue--long distance relationships can work, but it's really hard. It was one of several things that killed my first engagement. Jimbo's been on active duty several times and had to be away, the latest one was for 18 months. It sucks. We spent a lot of time on the phone, and fortunately could do that. Not everyone on active duty can because they're in the field or whatever. We also wrote a lot of letters 15 years back because we couldn't afford much long distance at the time. @Herbie--you'll find that most people have screwed up families to some degree or another. No one has a Brady Bunch family. Or whatever the current equivalent of that is. Jimbo loves me in spite of my flaky mother. True love doesn't care if the family members are all messed up, anyway. She's not going to date your family, she's going to date you. @Prime--she's growing up way too fast. What a doll! Keep her away from the sex maniacs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raven_Onasi Posted August 24, 2006 Author Share Posted August 24, 2006 @ EVERYONE -- I am so sorry!!! True love and love at first sight are two completely different things, I should have specified. SORRY!!!! @ Mimartin -- WHAT!!! no princess in the window? come on. . .LOL! @ Prime -- Your daughter is sooooooooo cute @ Rogue -- Your 22 and you think love has passed you by?!? please, my oldest brother is 26 and has never had a real girlfriend. Your never to old for love, one day some one will come along and they will be the one intended for you. *shrugs shoulders* who knows, maybe she won't like babies either. and @ Mace MacLeod -- What would make you assume I have a new boyfriend? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Q Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 True Love... For those of you who've found it: CONGRATULATIONS! For those of you still looking: DON'T! Chances are you'll never find it. It has to come up and bite you in the a$$ when you're not looking. It's sneaky that way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeff Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 True Love... For those of you who've found it: CONGRATULATIONS! For those of you still looking: DON'T! Chances are you'll never find it. It has to come up and bite you in the a$$ when you're not looking. It's sneaky that way. How did the people who have found it now find it originally then? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
REDJOHNNYMIKE Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 "Love at first sight" Us horndogs get that on average about 3-70 times a day. so far, i haven't found my woman, but i know that she's out there somewhere. So, what about that one new forum member? Coffe addiction is one of the many facets of sexuality:xp: (j/k) Yeah, pretty much ditto on that. Still haven't met any of the "legendary items", usually they seem pretty cool until they open their mouth and I'm all like "must try to not kill the frickin idiot":lol: Personally I think a female RedHawke would be perfect for me Redhawke is a female Mav, don't you pay attention? So you want freaky cyborg sex? Unless you mean the user of the name redhawke, in which case you're playing for the pink team. @ED, A female version of his avatar??? Like "Queen Arachnia of the Spider People"? I'm down with that:D @Prime, Who's dat sexah guy you're hugging:xp: Your baby has an evil "stewie" look in his eyes, I'd watch my back if I were you... Jimbo loves me in spite of my flaky mother. Oh sure, mom's the only thing that ever gets on his nerves *massive eyeroll resulting in minor blood spray* @Raven, One of two things (well others also, but these are the main ones) can be assumed... a. You got a new boyfriend and just feel like you have to gush about it to the whole world... b. This thread is just a random projection of that emo (positive emo, no seriously drop the knife) side of girlness... Either way, it's one of those wierd qualities you girls have that we both have to put up with and are somewhat entertained by, so feel free to continue your intruiging line of discussion:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Q Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 @DM: It probably found them. What I'm saying is: Don't actively seek it out. Don't push it. That kind of has an air of desperation about it that isn't very attractive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mav Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 How can you hate babies?!? *snip the pic* Whaaaa!!! there is a 2nd gen Prime... *wonders if she wears Delta Squad armor or Movie Robes for Halloween* the little munchkin is adorable man I still can't believe how much banter and rant has been cause by this simple question, and I'm further disgusted that this was in some way started by a quote from Matthew McConaughey... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jae Onasi Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 "Love at first sight" Us horndogs get that on average about 3-70 times a day. Yeah, depends on how long you're online in your basement that day. usually they seem pretty cool until they open their mouth and I'm all like "must try to not kill the frickin idiot":lol: Hey, we girls feel that way about guys sometimes. The non-idiot girls are over at the library. Redhawke is a female Mav, don't you pay attention? So you want freaky cyborg sex? Unless you mean the user of the name redhawke, in which case you're playing for the pink team. You are _so_ going to confuse everyone. Oh sure, mom's the only thing that ever gets on his nerves *massive eyeroll resulting in minor blood spray* I think you need to see an eye doctor for that problem.... Of course I get on his nerves, and he gets on mine. Then we make up. Either way, it's one of those wierd qualities you girls have that we both have to put up with and are somewhat entertained by, so feel free to continue your intruiging line of discussion:) You know we girls plan that, don't you? It keeps your minds occupied so we can get important things done. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emperor Devon Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 You are _so_ going to confuse everyone. : Go to the near-bottom of the previous page, and you will find several amusing posts... @RJM, I think you got the gender of Prime's baby wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mav Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 Then we make up. yea... right now all I have to go by is an avatar pic of Yoda, and the image in my head is quite disturbing... let me see if I can put the same picture in my head into yours... ------> Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
REDJOHNNYMIKE Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 @Jae, It's not so much a lack of their intelligence as it is grossly conflicting opinions about most stuff important (example: any chick even mentioning the support of abortion instantly ceases to exist in my world) Who's confused about Redhawke? You know we girls plan that, don't you? It keeps your minds occupied so we can get important things done. Which things? @ED, Oops, I guess I spend less time staring at baby gender than you. @Prime, Sorry about that slip, stubby hand sticks type faster than brain doth rememberance:D @Mav, I declare !PWN! in your honor:thmbup1: maverick is pronounced ArrghOhFrickinEhl:D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emperor Devon Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 any chick even mentioning the support of abortion instantly ceases to exist in my world) Although I'm not a chick, I support abortion. Out of curiosity, do I no longer exist? @ED, Oops, I guess I spend less time staring at baby gender than you. And I can tell the gender of humans by seeing their faces. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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