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Do you have a hard time saying 'No' to your friends?


Eldritch

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Here's a question on peer pressure :

 

Do you have a hard time saying 'No' to your friends? Explain why you do or don't.

 

I personally don't, but I think I'm in the minority on this one. I've just always done my own thing and not cared what others thought, so I guess that has something to do with it. What about you all?

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I`ve a hard time saying no to my friends, but depending wich friends...there are some friends that could understand your reasons for saying no to something...and there are others that simply cant get it...so i`ve to think if that particulary friend can understand my reasons...

 

I hope i was clear:(

 

SAlu2

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I used to be a sheep: I always went with the crowd. I wouldn't refuse anything of my old friends if they asked. But a while back I changed a lot, I got more confident and became my own person, and made decisions based on what I wanted, not anyone else. I always say 'no' to my friends. Basically, my philosophy is that if they cannot respect your decision to refuse something of them, they cannot be considered a friend; true freinds should stick by you, no matter what.

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Depends on the subject really.

 

If it involves something active, hell, I'm there. My friends are pretty much the only ones who can persuade me to do anything physically active, so if the chance pops up, I won't miss it.

 

But as for disagreeing with them on stuff in general, it's very varied. Most of my friends are of the same mind as mine, so our opinions don't differ much.

 

It all comes down to what it's about. If I don't feel like doing it, I'll say no. If I don't feel like it because I'm lazy, it's probably good for me in the end.

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Though I have always been very independant, there was a time when I would not refuse my friends. Especialy when it came down to doing stupid things ie: Drugs, pety crime...that sort of thing. But back then I was but a youngling (like most here now) and had found it very hard to make friends. So naturaly I would not say no for fear of losing said "friends".

 

With hard lessons comes wisdom to the rare few. And I am glad to be one of those few. All too often some people just never learn, and I find that sad. My advise would be this. If you are ever presured into doing anything stupid, ask youself this: Are they really a friend. As Darklighter has already said, a true friend will respect your decisions.

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I'm sorta like Cjais here. It depends on what it's about.

 

If it's concerning drugs or alcohol... they'll tell you that no amount of pushing will ever get me to budge. If I say I'm not drinking, then I'm not drinking. If I say that I dont smoke weed, you're not gonna get that joint anywhere near my lips. And you better get away from me while doing it.

 

Other stuff... I guess I'll do it for the sake of my friends. I took a trail up on a nearby ski resort that I really dont like, just because my friend wanted to try the trick park it leads to. I'm not quite good enough for rails yet, and I hate the trail (too heavy for it, I stop on the uphills), but I did it a few times because he wanted to.

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My friends are like brothers to me, we basically grew up together so whatever i wanna do is my choice, no pressure.

 

Ok one of 'em maybe, but not for serious stuff...and that's just his nature, he's a natural born stalker (that means he'll harass me until i say yes, but he'll give up eventually...when i say sure! and then hang up the phone ;))

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depends on what their asking for but we all agree on so many thing and levels that it doesn't come up offen, if I don't want to I say no their fine with that.:) but always been independent got bullyed for it at school but ha I'm the one at med school while their in dead end jobs.:rolleyes: cruel I know

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