Tommycat Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Ok, so a bit of background, A few weeks back I found out my wife had been cheating on me while I was at work. That was a very rough time for me. I was pretty dang mad. I immediately moved out stayed in a hotel and got an appartment pretty quick. We're done. I'm actually over her(faster than I thought I would be). I got over her mostly by talking to friends and of course having people around me that let me know how much more of a friend to me they were than to her. But my question to you is IF you had a person that you thought was the love of your life, and had to face the loss, How did you get over it? If you want the full story about what happened, I can explain more, but I don't think it's necessarily important to the thread topic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Revan 411 Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 That's.... pretty harsh, but that can happen to you in life sometime... Anyway, as for me, I would get a divorce, pack my stuff, move out, look for an apartment, and continue on. I would remember nothing, I would completely forget about everything, and move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inyri Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 I would remember nothing, I would completely forget about everything, and move on.Said like someone who's never known heartache. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ctrl Alt Del Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Betray back. Out of spite, you can do a lot of things you'll probably regret later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ray Jones Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 But my question to you is IF you had a person that you thought was the love of your life, and had to face the loss, How did you get over it? I had this exactly 3 years ago just when I was about to ask someone to marry me. What helped me most was a bunch of very good friends (most important), lack of or almost no sleep and loooots of womenfolk. I went to a lot of parties and clubs as well to seek distraction. Oh and my boss, who (of course) didn't mind me working 12+ hours a day. Now three years after, we're back together, and it wasn't really a loss at all, because at the end of the day and despite all the oddities, I had a wonderful time and she had not. God is a just being, I say. *shrugs* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mimartin Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 I lost what I considered the love of my life a long time ago to an auto accident. Much different from you, but I imagine just as painful. How did I get over it? I didn’t. I’ve just learned to live with it. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TriggerGod Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Said like someone who's never known heartache. Don't assume too much, Forge. I may just be a kid (in your eyes) but I know the heartaches all too well (Girlfriend of 5 years cheats on me) What I did was I got someone to hide everything that reminded my of her (I almost went into a freaking box because I thought everything reminded me of her ) and when I finally got over her, which was about 2 months later, I found all my crap he stole hid. In your case, its a wife. She's gonna pull everything even remotely bad you did to her, stretch it so it seems like you were the one who cheated on her, or beat her on a regular basis, and make you seem to be the bad guy. Don't try any kind of betrayal to get back at her until after all the paperwork and court issues are over. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inyri Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Don't assume too much, Forge.I don't recall quoting you earlier in this thread, so how could I be assuming anything about you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TriggerGod Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 I don't recall quoting you earlier in this thread, so how could I be assuming anything about you? I wasn't saying you were assuming about me (Now you did, as you assumed that I was talking about you when you assumed earlier... lol wut?) I was talking about your assumption that Revan 411 never had a heartache. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Burnseyy Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Anyway, as for me, I would get a divorce, pack my stuff, move out, look for an apartment, and continue on. I would remember nothing, I would completely forget about everything, and move on. Easier said than done. I wouldn't forget or anything, but I'd be able to learn to live with it eventually. Probably take up another hobby, something I could never do when I was with that particular person, to take my mind off things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Litofsky Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Gawd. I detest threads like this. I don't mind people pouring out their problems (generally, that's the best way to deal with it), but I hate hearing about lost loved ones, whether to an accident or just going separate ways. I'm a big softie. As for things to do? No matter what, 10,000%, do NOT do anything back to her. Things you do now could come to haunt you later, and it just won't be worth it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rogue15 Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 nothing at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EnderWiggin Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Said like someone who's never known heartache. I would be inclined to agree with you, Inyri. God is a just being, I say. I've found that to be the case as well, Rayston. Don't assume too much, Forge. Teehee. You know she got her name changed, right? Actually, she told me that her favorite name is Lady Forge. Might want to try that in the future I may just be a kid (in your eyes) but I know the heartaches all too well (Girlfriend of 5 years cheats on me) I'm going to now make some assumptions. Feel free to correct me. You had a girlfriend for 5 years? You must have started dating in like the 5th grade. In that case, it was a middle school / high school relationship. Was it all that serious? Did you expect to spend the rest of your life with this girl? I understand that it causes pain when it ends, but I don't think it's exactly comparable to TommyCat, who is going through a divorce. In your case, its a wife. She's gonna pull everything even remotely bad you did to her, stretch it so it seems like you were the one who cheated on her, or beat her on a regular basis, and make you seem to be the bad guy. Don't try any kind of betrayal to get back at her until after all the paperwork and court issues are over. Not necessarily. Not all divorces are as gory as you describe. _EW_ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GodsillY Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 I've never gone through something like a divorce that's much worse than anything a seventeen year old like me could have ever gone through. I got over my lost loves by talking to other people around me much like you said you did, I just hung out with friends and went to football games, I did what I could to take my mind off it, eventually I forgot. When I was younger and more immature, (I still am immature mind you) I would totally just dump my girlfriend and date someone else, but I find that retarded now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Sitherino Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 You never forget, you never get over someone, you simply move on. The only problem is it's not simple. You have to do what keeps you moving forward, it's hard for a long time, but you either make things work out for you or you don't. Life is all about living, and that's it. It's up to us to decide what kind of life we live. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarthAve Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 1) Ben and Jerry are always your friend, Never forget that. 2) That seriously blows that that happened. I'm sure that hurts even worse than rejection outright.... You want me to be honest, I just got over a guy. Thinking back, I would to anything for him, to be with him, cause he made me happy. ~sigh~ Than I befrended his best friend.... Being a teenager sucks sometimes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rogue15 Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 what i do is think about it until i stop caring...or just go on a long drive and listen to some loud music, ban sleep for a day or 2. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth InSidious Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 What did you do to get over someone? I forgave them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Sitherino Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 I also smoke pot and browse 4chan, jmac and Samuel Dravis were there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TriggerGod Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 You had a girlfriend for 5 years? You must have started dating in like the 5th grade. In that case, it was a middle school / high school relationship. Was it all that serious? Did you expect to spend the rest of your life with this girl? I understand that it causes pain when it ends, but I don't think it's exactly comparable to TommyCat, who is going through a divorce. It was during the summer before 6th that we started hanging out, but it wasn't until 6th started that we went out. It wasn't "that" serious, but.. it kind of depends on your definition of serious. I'm not gonna go further on this... No, I didn't expect that. I don't really set my expectations high on such things. The only thing I care about in a relationship is staying with her, and making her happy. Yes, I do realize that Tom is getting a divorce, and compared to the divorce, my relationships mean nothing. Being a teenager sucks sometimes. Yeah. What I do is I laugh stuff off. (Not in the case of my break up, tho...) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Det. Bart Lasiter Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 I also smoke pot and browse 4chan, jmac and Samuel Dravis were there.sithy we need to get sloshed and have a lightsaber duel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarthAve Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Yeah. What I do is I laugh stuff off. (Not in the case of my break up, tho...) Oh I laugh off everything. You know the guy I mentioned, the one I thought I loved? Yeah, I found out yesterday he likes my best friend... I didn't have the urge to kill either, somehow. OMG DRAMA.... My life is The Hills. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jrrtoken Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 OMG DRAMA.... My life is The Hills.Kill your MTV. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Det. Bart Lasiter Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 My life is The Hills.i would make that my best kept secret Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TriggerGod Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 OMG DRAMA. True, pure, concentrated drama is found at my school. If you walk past the Cheerleader's table at my school, you'll probably hear something like this: "Oh my gawd, did you hear? Brent cheated on Katie with her best friend, Sam. I wonder waht the bebeh will look leik?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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